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Moving from conspicuous to conscious consumption and doing reviews along the way.  Find plenty of unsponsored reviews of Quince, Everlane, Grana, and Cuyana on the site!  I'm working towards a minimal waste lifestyle, and oh yea I love bags >.<

Weekend Update/Ramblings

I’m not a sustainability blogger. I’m a trying-to-do-better-but-still-imperfect blogger. And by trying to do better I’m not comparing myself to others but rather to my former self. So even though my shower routine is zero waste and I bring my own reusable bag to the store 98% of the time, I still use disposable diapers and sometimes get salad in plastic containers once in awhile (well especially since the baby). I don’t shop at fast fashion stores anymore but I eat too much meat. Anyway this is just a preface to my shockingly bad results of this ecological footprint quiz (which I first saw over at Of a Certain Vintage, formerly To a Universe With Love). It’s mainly my food consumption that needs to be better (less meat and less packaged foods).

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Mainly, if you’re lucky enough to live in the US or any other developed nation, with air condition, packaged foods, delivery services, etc. your footprint will be higher than most other people in the world. But still it’s good to keep in mind what I can do to improve.

But at the same time it’s important to remember we don’t need to keep up with the minimalist (or sustainable) Jonses either. We just need to do better than our past selves. And one of the ways we can do that is by learning how to make-do. Found this beautifully written piece (via Of a Certain Vintage) about the “Life Changing Magic of Making Do.” There’s so many good points to this article that I have a feeling I’ll be referencing it a lot from now on.

And not related to this but Leah hits it out of the park again with this thoughtful essay about charity.

P.S. I’m selling several of my Elizabeth Suzann items that I haven’t worn in awhile. You can find them on my closet sale page here.

Go Through That Beauty Drawer (or in my case, that beauty plastic bin)

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Having been an ex-Sephora addict (VIP Rouge easily 5 years in a row), I have spent a lot of money on makeup and skincare (I also used to buy many a duplicates of stuff whenever Sephora would have their sales). And having moved from house to trailer to apartment means that all those beauty products have lived in a plastic bin for the last couple of years. Well now that we’re settled in this apartment for a bit, I decided to finally go through that bin to either use or lose these things. Hence my return to powder foundation (but also due to more even skin thanks to Augustinus Bader Rich Cream). And having gone through all my beauty stuff, I have now vowed not to buy any more lotion until I’ve used up every tube or bottle I have stocked in that bin. Ditto for lip products and nail polish. But now that my skin is at a happy place, I’m hesitant to use some of the stuff I purchased on a whim but haven’t tried yet. Like those clay masks and serums. And yet to straight throw them away would be such a pity for both my wallet and the environment.

So I did some research and found several places you can donate your gently used or unused items. My favorite and the one I sent my products to is Project Beauty Share, based out of Spokane, Washington. They distribute donated items to women who are trying to get back on their feet, whether from homelessness or addiction. And here are the things they accept and don’t accept. Also if you happen to be a hotel bath products hoarder like myself, then you can also donate all unused hotel products. I liked Project Beauty Share the best of all the organizations out there because they’ll take your gently used items (not just brand new and unopened). Because hey if it’s good enough for most people to try the sometimes gross-samples laid out at Sephora, a gently used item from one person shouldn’t go completely to waste (and fill up those landfills). So if you have any gently used items that, c’mon let’s be real, you’re not going to be using any time soon (or at all) send them to Project Beauty Share at 2718 E. Sprague, Spokane, WA 99202. If you live in Spokane, there are physical drop off locations to save on shipping costs.

And when you have your box all packed (but before you tape it up) take in all the things you didn’t use. Also add to that the cost of postage to donate (depending on what you’re donating, it might be cheaper to do a flat rate box, especially if you’re shipping across the country. And if you’re doing a flat rate box but it’s not full yet, go and ask your friends or family if they have anything they might want to donate). And remember all this before you splurge on your next skin care or makeup item.

P.S. Project Beauty Share will also take individually wrapped tampons and pads so if you have any that you’re not going to use, send them those as well (I have some pads that I bought for the post-pregnancy bleed but I hate pads and will not use the rest of them so I’m glad they’re going to get used by someone else).

P.P.S. I used to be a crazy nail polish consumer and I had several smaller plastic bins of it (this was before learning about zero waste and being more conscious of my consumption habits in general). But since you can’t send used nail polish to Project Beauty Share, I’ve sold my nail polish via storenvy and had moderate success. I also gave many of my bottles away to friends. I might not be making my money back but I’m feeling good that they’re being used by somebody else (and TBH nail polish is shared so many times at a nail salon so again getting a personal nail polish used by one person is comparatively nbd). Just something to keep in mind if you’re ever trying to get rid of nail polish (because also technically you should not just be throwing these away in the trash—here’s how to safely dispose of them).

Everlane Review: The Day Tote Mini

I was very lucky to be asked again this month if I wanted anything from Everlane’s line sheet as an affiliate. And you bet I zoomed in on their Day Tote Mini. Their regular Day Tote is an all time favorite (the most used bag in my closet, which I wrote about here), so I was super excited to try out the mini version since I’m all about smaller bags now (that I can hang off the stroller bar). So even if I wasn’t gifted this awesome bag, I would have most definitely purchased it myself to try it out.

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I love the Day Tote Mini because it reminds me of the Celine small vertical cabas, which I always wanted and was *this close* to buying once. But in the end I decided not to because it seemed too plain of a bag to spend over a $1200 for. So I was super excited to see the Day Tote Mini on Everlane’s Coming Soon page and couldn’t wait to take it for a spin. And after having tried it out for a bit, I like this Day Tote Mini a lot. It might actually be a bit better than the Celine small vertical cabas because it’s not as big or as tall. So I can keep things upright and organized (while I could see things getting lost at the bottom of the Celine cabas). Also the shorter bag works well for my petite frame.

The leather of the Day Tote Mini is the same sturdy but lightweight leather that I’ve come to know and love on the regular Day Tote. I like that this tote can stand up on it’s own and doesn’t slouch over like a lot of other totes (however I should note, if you’re not careful how you pack the regular Day Tote, you can distort the leather so it ends up looking wonky like mine did). But I don’t really foresee that same problem with this mini tote since it’s so small, you can’t really overstuff it with heavy items that will bend it out of shape. Oh and I accidentally poured hot water all over this bag and it was completely fine. Just wiped off the water and it was as good as new (no water spots!).

This Day Tote Mini fits all the essentials and then some. I like that I can fit a baby’s bottle upright in there if I need to. So you could probably fit a small water bottle if needed. You could also fit a book or kindle in there. I also love that I can fit things like my sunglass case and sunblock vertically so everything is easy to find. There’s one flat pocket inside that fits my keys and lip balm.

Everlane Review Day Tote Mini
 

{Wearing: Everlane Cotton Weave Collarless Shirtdress (review coming soon), Everlane V Slingback (reviewed here), Everlane Day Tote Mini, and thrifted hat}

The crossbody strap is adjustable or you can remove it completely which is a nice feature to have. These days since I hang my bag on the stroller I like to have to the option to remove the crossbody strap. For this bag, I remove one side but leave the other side attached just in case I need to quickly throw it over my shoulder. Oh, and the holes where the crossbody strap loops through are reinforced so you don’t have to worry about that area getting worn out if you end up carrying heavy items in your bag.

The only drawback to this bag is that there is no closure so if you’re in a crowded place, you’re going to either want to hold the bag in your hands or have at least one hand over it when wearing it over your shoulder. And if you have a lot of things in your bag, you definitely want to do this since it will gape open when stuffed. If your bag isn’t as stuffed then the handles will kind of come together when slung over your hip so it’s not too open.

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I was actually really tempted to get the taupe color above but I played it safe and got black. Since the leather feels similar to the leather of my Everlane mini form bag (and they’re made in the same factory), I don’t think the lighter colors will have issues with color transfer from jeans or getting marked up easily (though I don’t know for sure). But I do like that the black looks classic and it goes with this year’s “summer witch” theme lol. But I’m pretty disappointed with the pale yellow color they have for the third option. A light gray would have been more versatile.

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Anyway I put together this review a little early since it was requested by a reader. And I’ll update it to let you know how the bag wears over time! But I hope I’ll be writing a 100 days wear post about this bag (like I did for the regular Day Tote) by the end of the year!

P.S. And congrats to Jenn R. for winning the Everlane gift card giveaway! You have been emailed :)

Weekend Update/Ramblings

I really dislike posing for pictures. That’s a funny statement coming from a fashion/style/outfit blogger, but it’s true. All I really want to do is write about what I think (about this item of clothing, that baby toy, or some beauty product or other). But pictures come with the blogging territory so I suck it up and try not to GAF. But sometimes I do. Especially when trying to take an outfit shot on the street (like the one I tooke below for the Everlane Chino Shorts review I did this past week), because that’s the only time I’ll bother to change out of PJs these days. It’s hard not to be self-conscious. It would be great to take outfit shots at home but unfortunately the lighting in our new apartment is pretty terrible (though my mom’s apartment is better so you might see some shots from there). Anyway it’s just interesting that an unphotogenic introvert like myself is now taking pictures on the street for a blog >.< lol.

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I read this post interviewing single women in their 40’s and 50’s and enjoyed it. I could see myself happily unmarried and childless if my life had turned out differently. But I’m just as grateful for the life I have now. Like one of the women said, “You can have a great life in any situation. You have to be thankful in it, whatever is happening.”

And if you’ve been eyeing Everlane’s Day Market Tote (or Day Square Tote) they’re on sale today only for $125 (so that’s about $50-40 off depending on which tote you’re looking at). I mean it’s a good tote and the most used bag in my closet so I would feel remiss not to mention it.

I got sucked into Amazon’s Prime Day. Of course I didn’t plan on buying anything but did end up buying stuff for the baby that we needed and happened to be on sale (they had so many things that we had already purchased on sale too, darn it!). Also got some baby shower gifts that were on my friend’s registry that also happened to be on sale. And lastly I got some books that were on my wishlist for awhile since there was a $5 off $15 promo. Man, Amazon really knows how to hook me in. Anyone else get sucked into Amazon Prime Day?

Oh and last week I talked about not buying anything from the Nordstrom Anniversary sale. Well now I have to eat my words because I did some early morning impulse purchases >.< yesterday . I got this GloPRO Microneedling set (usually $229 at Sephora and $179 for the Nordstrom sale) because if I’m spending $260+ on Augustinus Bader cream, I might as well try to make it as effective as possible with some microneedling (which allows serums and creams to sink deeper into the skin). And then I also got this red LED light wand from LightStim (normally $249, on sale for $165) after reading an article about the wonders of LED light on wrinkles and large pores. I don’t have the time to go for those seriously expensive facials that I see those NYC influencers go to, but I can try to see if these at-home tools might do the trick. As usual I’ll review all these products after trying them out consistently for awhile.

Unsponsored Lovevery Play Gym Review {July 2020 Update)

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Pretty soon after I received my first subscription box of toys from Lovevery (reviewed here), and saw how quality their toys were, I decided to go ahead and splurge on the Lovevery Play Gym. We were borrowing a small standard play mat (like this one) from a friend but Emi was soon outgrowing it. And even though the price of this Lovevery playmat is more than double a standard one you can find on Amazon, I don’t regret the purchase one bit.

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First of all, I really like the material of the mat. It’s smooth and cool to the touch, and it’s easy to keep clean since drool doesn’t just soak right in (of course it does a bit but I’m able to blot most of it out). And it’s also super easy to wash—just throw into the washing machine and dryer (they have cleaning instructions both on their website and their Insta). I also love the different zones at the edges of the mat. It’s especially useful for tummy time, with our current favorites being the “how things feel” and the “making sounds” zones. The “making sounds” zone was also great when Emi started learning that her actions can cause reactions (ie kicking to make noise or making a balloon bob). The “learning to focus” zone (the one with the pictures) is also awesome because it grows with your child. We started with the black and white images, and now we’re using the mirror and the face pictures (all included with the set). She’s still a little two young for the other two zones but I can’t wait until we can start using those too. We basically keep all the zones open to maximize space on the mat so that she has room to roll over (which is basically impossible for her on a standard sized mat).

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I also really love the sturdy wooden arms. They’re super lightweight and designed well so you never have to worry about the bars falling on top of her. In fact with the standard mats, with the flexible tubing arms, she can pull the toys all the ways down now and I could see her getting entangled in some of the longer toys. And in another review I read about this mat, the mother liked it because the arms wouldn’t collapse onto the baby if any of her older kids happened to put their weight on it. Oh and the arms were super easy to put together.

The only negative thing I would say about this mat is that the toys it comes with was not super engaging to her. They’re almost a little too abstract and doesn’t hold her attention. Or maybe it’s because we started her off with toys that have all the bells and whistles (like it only takes a slight pull to get a good rattle sound or it has a ring that makes it super easy to grab onto) so she’s used to that. We ended up switching out the toys that it came with some of the toys we already had (like this one which she loooves). But we will continue to introduce the Lovevery toys to her and see if she takes to them at a later age.

Oh and I can’t wait to turn this into a tent/fort for her when she gets older. Kids always love a little enclosed space and this comes with the play mat.

Finally, even though this play mat is quite expensive at $140, once you’re done with it you can sell it on ebay. I’ve seen them go for $80-$100 used. So for over a year of use (maybe even two), you can be looking at $40-$60 which is pretty good.

So if you’re looking for a really quality play gym and activity mat, and are willing to do the legwork to sell it after, I think this Lovevery version is 100% worth it.

April 2020: Emi is now 13 months old and we still use this play gym. We’ve converted it into a tent which she still loves playing under. I sometimes rest my head inside the tent and it’s become my relaxation area lol. So I would say this Lovevery play gym is still worth it! Also it took some time but she finally grew to loving the hanging toys that come with the mat. I think she just needed to get a bit older for them to hold her attention.

July 2020: I finally sold the play gym on ebay for $70 (listing only lasted 2 days so I probably could have asked for more but the shipping is quite a bit ($30) so I kept it on the low end. So it comes out to a bit under $70 for 1 year’s worth of play— not bad!

Everlane Review: The Easy Chino Shorts and Giveaway {Closed}

Everlane Review The Easy Chino Shorts

Everlane’s Easy Chinos (reviewed here) was one my most worn Everlane items last year and one of my most worn items overall (#13 in fact). Couple that with the fact that I no longer fit into any of my shorts from pre-pregnancy (all of which were jean shorts), and I was suuuuuuper excited when Everlane revealed their Easy Chino Shorts. I was so excited that I bought two right off the bat because I had very high hopes that they would be exactly what I needed. So what did I think? Did they live up to my hopes and dreams (lol, ok I know that’s overkill when we’re talking about shorts, but really good and affordable shorts are hard to find when you’re pear shaped).

The verdict: They’re uhhhmmaaaazing. Haha, okay well maybe that’s an overstatement, but I really am very excited about these shorts and how they fit. First a note on sizing: I ordered them in a 6 because of my post-pregnancy pooch and overall weight gain. If you’ve been a long time reader and we have similar sizing, then I think a 4 would work for you (that’s the size I wear in the regular Easy Chino pants). I probably could have fit into a 4 since I still fit into the size 4 Easy Chino pants I have now, but I wanted to have that extra bit of space around the hips and rise for these shorts. Also with long term wear and multiple washings the elastic does loosen up a bit and the material in general gets softer and relaxed (that’s why I still fit into my old size 4 pants).

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{Wearing: Only Child Alta Top (reviewed here), Everlane Easy Chino Shorts, Arizona Birkenstocks, Celine Soft Cube Bag (reviewed here)}

I love these shorts since they’re basically the short version of the long pants I already know and love. Thus I already have a bunch of outfit combos that I know would work with these shorts. The fabric is soft and pretty wrinkle resistant. I usually just wash the pants in the machine but make sure to take them out and shake out/smooth the wrinkles before putting it in the dryer. And I love that these are more age appropriate shorts for mid-thirties-me than my short ripped jean shorts. They kind of remind me of the Elizabeth Suzann Florence shorts but a tad wider in the leg, lower in rise, made of cotton, with pockets, and with a much lower price point.

The only drawback to these shorts is that the black ones pick up and show dog hair and lint like a mofo. Oh and the inseam of these pants don’t change between sizes. It’s a constant 3.5” across all sizes so I’m not sure how well the fit will be in the larger sizes (you would think the inseam would vary with size).

Anyway if you've been looking for a good pair of elastic waist shorts I highly recommend giving these a try. In fact, I like these so much I want one of my readers to be able to try them out as well so I’m doing a $50 Everlane gift card giveaway. Just fill out the form below (email will just be used to contact the lucky winner, no spam I promise). One entry per person please. Giveaway ends next Monday midnight and I’ll announce the lucky winner next Tuesday! {Closed}

Weekend Update/Ramblings

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Got some questionnaire inspiration from the women featured in this Good Trade post here and here and decided to ask myself the same questions they asked the women they featured. So here goes:

A Purchase You Planned: My Acne Studios Musubi bag (reviewed here). I had been eyeing it for over a year and had been stalking it on the RealReal for almost as long. I missed a couple of them since I didn’t like the price point they were selling for (even used!). But eventually snagged one for almost $400 less by waiting for it to go on sale at the RealReal.

An Impulse Buy:  The esby Duffy jumper. I saw it on Instagram and basically immediately searched eBay for a used one, found it, made an offer to purchase it, and I got it!

Your Favorite Purchase: This is a tough one but probably my favorite purchase in the last year is my Celine Soft Cube bag from Fashionphile (reviewed here). It’s functional yet chic and has held up like a champ. My favorite item of clothing is probably my Elizabeth Suzann Mara jumpsuit purchased from eBay (reviewed here). It lasted me through the bulk of my pregnancy and now postpartum too.

A Purchase You Regret: Probably that esby Duffy jumper since it really doesn’t fit me and now I have to resell it.

A Purchase You Regret Not Making: So far none. Most of the time if I don’t buy something, I usually forget about it.

P.S. I know the Nordstrom Anniversary and Amazon Prime Day are happening and a lot of bloggers will be talking about it because it’s a great time to make some commission (if you buy, they make money—this sentiment is also expressed by this blogger here). But it might be a good idea to do this exercise for yourself and really think through the purchases you regret and the purchase you regret not making. Unless there’s something you’ve been eyeing for awhile that’s on sale now, don’t spend your hard earned money on something on a whim that might not serve you well.

Unsponsored Comparison Review of the Medela Pump vs. Spectra vs. the Willow

* This is an unsponsored post although the Medela was covered by my insurance. I purchased both the Spectra and Willow Pumps myself.

I’ve only been pumping for about 4 months now so I’m in no way an expert but because I have chronically low milk supply, I’ve spent a lot of quality time with my pumps. And I’ve tried three different pumps, so I thought I’d share my experience here.

The Medela Symphony Pump

I wasn’t planning to try a Medela pump but I was lucky enough to get a rental from Kaiser for free due to my very low supply. This costs about $2000 new so this is probably not an option for most people. Renting costs about $44 a month through Apria. I only had free rentals for 3 months, but I’m so glad I got to try this one out because now I know what a $2000 pump feels like lol. It gives me a good gold standard (or rather “high-end expensive” standard) to compare the other two pumps to. You can purchase one used, which is totally reasonable since this is a closed pump system so the milk doesn’t actually run through the machine. You’ll never have cross contamination, but if you do purchase used you’ll want to buy your own flanges and tubing (that’ll make it feel like a brand new pump since those are the parts that touch the milk). If you want to buy it used I saw some go for $250-$450 on eBay and you can also buy tubing and flanges new on eBay or on Amazon. Now why might you want to go through the hassle of buying used and all the parts separately? Because tbh, this is the best pump of the three I’ve tried. Here’s why:

Pros

  • The best suction out of all three, as in the most powerful. If you’ve got milk in your boobs, this thing will for sure get it out. Which is why it’s great for someone with low supply like myself. Also I find that because of the powerful suction, I don’t have to pump as long to get to empty.

  • Easy to use and no frills. There’s just the let-down phase (faster pumping, lower suction) and the expression phase (slower pumping, higher suction) that you can adjust the suction for, but you can’t change the pumping rates so you don’t have to even think about it. It also automatically goes from one phase to the other so you don’t have to think about it (and if you want you can switch back to the let-down phase).

  • The flanges and bottles come in 3 pieces so that 1) I used an old sports bra, cut a hole for the nippes and use that as a pumping bra (no specialized bra needed) and 2) for those with low supply, you can turn the bottle upside down and collect the milk in the elbow piece so you don’t actually have to wash a bottle every time you pump (the bottle stays clean, you just have to wash the flange and the elbow). There’s nothing more tedious than having to wash the whole thing every time for 10mL of milk.

Overall if you have low supply, this really is the best. But it’s not all rainbows and sunshine because:

Cons

  • This thing is a tank. It’s super heavy and has to be plugged in at all times so there’s zero mobility with this thing.

  • There’s no timer so you’re going to have to keep track yourself on how long you’ve been pumping (which doesn’t seem like a big deal but is easily overlooked when in a sleep-deprived state).

  • The let-down and expression pumping rates are pre-determined. I said that was a pro up top, but it can also be a con for those who want to fiddle with the settings.

  • And of course the cost.

The Spectra S1

Now this is pretty much the gold standard for the normal folks (and by normal I mean those who produce an adequate amount of milk). This is the one all my friends use and recommended to me. And for those who are lucky enough to have good health insurance, this one can sometimes be covered through insurance. If not, you can buy it new for $200. As for me, Kaiser would not cover this so I purchased this used on eBay for $80 (this is also a closed pump system so milk doesn’t run through the machine). I still had to buy the tubing and flanges new so I think overall it cost me about $130. If you don’t want to go through the hassle just buy it new.

Pros

  • The Let-down and Expression phase pumping rates and suction strength are customizable up to a point. The Let-down phase has a pumping rate (what they call Cycle) max of 70 (sorry, I don’t know what the numbers refer to) and suction strength (what they call Vacuum) of 5 (with a 12 being the strongest suction). The Expression phase has a max cycle of 54 and max vacuum of 12. Also the switching between these two phases is manual so you can choose how long you want to be in each phase.

  • The S1 is super portable because it comes with a rechargeable battery so if you want, you can walk around the house hooked up to the pump and carry the pump. This feature is probably my favorite since this way you’re not tethered to an outlet. The S2 (the pink one) doesn’t have a rechargeable battery so like the Medela Symphony, you will have to stay in one place while you pump. This pump is also relatively light so you can easily travel with it in your carry-on.

  • There’s a timer on the machine so you don’t have to keep track of how long you’ve been pumping.

Cons

  • For me, the biggest con about the Spectra is that the suction is relatively weak when compared to the Medela Symphony. The max 12 feels like half the suction of the setting I used for the Medela (and I wasn’t even maxing out on the Medela, I was at about 75% strength). So for a low producer like me, I end up having to pump longer to get all the milk out. For the Medela I would pump from 12-15 minutes while for the Spectra I average about 20-25 minutes. When I originally switched over to the Spectra (when they took my Medela away—that was a sad day lol), I would pump for 15 minutes and not get nearly as much milk. And then my supply started to decrease. Only when I sat pumping for 20+ minutes did my supply start to get back up again. Like I said, for most people the Spectra is adequate, but if you know you have low supply you might want to try renting the Symphony (especially during the early days when you’re really trying to increase supply).

  • You have to buy a special pumping bra if you want hands-free pumping (and believe me, you do). I purchased this Simple Wishes one but for $20 less on eBay (I’m really trying to buy used more often these days because it’s not only better for my wallet but also for the earth).

  • And though it’s listed as a pro up top, having everything be customizable can also be a con. It can be intimidating and a hassle to figure out all the settings when you first start pumping. How much suction should you feel? What’s the best cycle for each phase? How long should you be in the let-down phase before switching to the expression phase? These are all things you have to think about with this pump.

  • And even though you can pump anywhere the rechargeable battery only lasts me 2 days worth (pumping about 6 times a day) so now I just usually keep it plugged into the wall and pump much like I did with the Medela.

The Willow Pump

I already had 2 pumps so there was no need to get a third. But when the Willow pump 1.0 was selling for $100 off the original price and with extra bags, I thought why not give it a try. The idea of being able to discreetly pump anywhere and to be truly untethered was very appealing. Pump while cleaning the house! Pump while driving! Pump while out with a group of friends! I’ve actually done all three and I have to say it’s pretty liberating. But this pump is also not for everyone.

Pros

  • The portability. You can pump anywhere with the Willow. Even with the Spectra S1, you have to carry the pump in one hand so it’s not like you can swifter the floor while pumping (which I did with the Willow).

  • It’s the smallest pump and quietest pump so you can pump without people knowing. Granted if you’re in a meeting or a quiet room, people will hear the motor and wonder what it is. But in a crowded room/restaurant, you won’t be able to hear it. I was at a friends place, went to the bathroom to put the pumps on, and then was able to converse with friends for about 25 minutes while pumping. Also the lightest pump so it’s great for travel.

  • Really strong suction. I would say the suction on this thing is even stronger than the Medela. They have 7 settings and I only could go up to 2 comfortably.

  • There’s an app that is supposed to measure how much milk you’ve collected. This is needed for those with normal to abundant milk supplies since you can’t actually see how much milk you’ve filled in the bag. Since I don’t have that problem, I never bothered with the app because it usually misreads the amount (see the Con point below about this).

  • You don’t need to get a specialized bra for this. Any nursing bra will do. I use my Storq nursing tank (reviewed here).

Cons

  • The Willow Pump is by far the hardest to use and that’s because you are blindly putting on the pumps (ie you can’t see where your nipple goes). For those who haven’t pumped before, you’ll think your nipples are normal and point forward (like I did). But you’ll soon find out that there’s variations between each nipple that makes placing a flange on difficult. And to get good suction and pain free pumping, you need to place the nipple directly in the center of the flange (this is true for every breast pump). I don’t even get it right all the time with the Medela and Spectra where I can actually see the nipple through the flange. So it’s basically impossible for me to get it right with the Willow. I have yet to experience completely pain free pumping with the Willow and that’s why it’s my least favorite. Even with the 2.0 version with the clear flange, you still can’t see how the nipple is placed through the actual pump so I’m not sure it’s that much better (but since I’ve never tried the 2.0 version I can’t say for sure). From what I’ve read it takes about a month of consistent use to get it right. And tbh I’m too lazy to try that hard for pumping (especially since I already have 2 great pumps)

  • You can’t switch between the two phases. There’s a pre-determined time for each phase and you can’t go back to the first phase. You also can’t power pump (for those with low supply, this is pumping every 15 minutes to increase supply) with the Willow because if you’re within the 25 minute pumping session, it will not repeat the let-down phase.

  • You can’t really do hand-expression (basically milking your own boob) with the Willow. So if you’re prone to milk duct clogs or you have low-supply, this might not be the best pump for you.

  • Unless you have perfect nipple placement, you are going to get air in your bags. This means you might end up filling your milk bags with more air than milk, and it’ll also make the reading on your app wrong.

  • Disassembling the bag from the pump is messy work because there’s always a little bit of milk left in the tube (which is also a bummer when you don’t produce enough milk to begin with). So you can’t just easily disassemble everything on the go. You’re going to want to be near a sink.

  • The pump is expensive and the milk bags (which are not reusable-though there’s a hack for that) are $0.50 each. So if you’re using this exclusively to pump then you’re looking at about $5-$8 a day in bags. For pumping 8 times a day, everyday for 3 months you’re looking at $720! Whenever I pump I use the hack to empty the bags into another bottle and reuse the bags for the day (storing them in the fridge between pumping sessions). It’s a tedious and messy solution but it’s also the cheapest.

  • Charging takes 2 hours per pump (so 4 hours total) and you can get maybe a days worth of pumping if you use it 6 times a day.

I would say for those who are out and about a lot or work and need to pump the Willow might be worth it. Since I’m currently a SAHM, I’ll make the time to pump at home so I don’t really need the Willow. I would also say that if you can get a free pump with insurance, that should be your primary pump with the Willow being a secondary pump for when you’re out or traveling. I think you’ll have difficulties with using the Willow and with getting your supply up if the Willow pump is your first and only breast pump. As a secondary pump for those who already know how it works, it’s a great addition for convenience (once you put in the time to get the hang of it). You can find plenty of used Willow pumps on eBay here but purchase your flange and flextube new. Or if you want to purchase it new, this referral link here will get you an extra 48 milk bags. {Update: thank you to those who purchased through my referral link I have some extra Willow pump bag promo codes that I’m sharing here. Feel free to use them if there’s any available!}

Anyway I hope this review helped you guys decide on which pump is for you. I know there’s a ton of options out there (with more and more being released every year), so it’s hard to know which is the “right one”. But tbh, you’ll get used to whichever pump you get so there’s no need to overthink it!

Everlane Review: The Linen Pant

There was little to no fanfare when Everlane released these pants (it wasn’t even on their coming soon page), so it might have slipped under the radar for some. But being the Everlane addict that I am, I check their new releases page every once in awhile and I noticed these linen pants. Since I’m always on the lookout for good linen pants, I thought I might give these a try with some credit I had earned (thanks to everyone who clicked my referral link). And well, I’m glad I did try them because I really love ‘em!

First a note on sizing: I’m usually a size 4 on top and 6 on the bottom for Everlane. But lately due to body changes because of pregnancy and then giving birth, I’m a bit all over the place when it comes to sizing (like I tried Everlane’ straight leg crop in my usual size 6 and it didn’t fit). But I got these in a size 6 and found that it did fit, mostly because of a really forgiving elastic and drawstring waistband.

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As you can see the pants hit right at the top of my foot, which is the perfect length for me (I’m 5’4”). On the models on the Everlane site these pants are cropped and hit above the ankle. I don’t mind the full length on me since this is a straight fit.

I love these pants because even though they feel like PJs with the elastic and drawstring waistband, they look pretty polished. They’re just wide enough at the hips and legs, so there’s no pulling, but not so wide that it makes me look short. The linen quality is lightweight, but in a pair of black pants that’s perfect since it’s nice and breezy. You can see how Everlane linen stacks up against other (mostly slow) brands I’ve tried here.

Sorry it took so long to get this review up, so there aren’t that many sizes left in black. The blue indigo color might work for some (probably best paired with white or another light color on top), but I would probably stay away from the white. If it’s anything like my other linen shirt made in the Shenzhen factory, it’s going to be slightly sheer.

Anyway, anyone else try Everlane’s linen pants?

Weekend Update/Ramblings

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I had a lucid dream the other night. My second one actually, but the first time (a couple weeks ago) I didn’t really know it was a lucid dream (I was conscious it was a dream but I just wanted to wake up and couldn’t, and spent the whole time anxious). This time I knew I was dreaming and even though I still had a bit of anxiety about not being able to wake up, I decided to go with it. It’s funny because in my dream there were things I could control and things I couldn’t (much like real life I guess). I was in a home (literally my dream home lol) and it was a 4 bed 3 bath ranch style house. I could control where I walked and decide which doors to open (or not), but couldn’t predict what was behind them. And so I went through all the doors with a bit of trepidation since I didn’t know what I would find. But it turned out to be a really normal house (it didn’t even have a walk-in closet lol, but it did have a beautiful green tiled bathroom like the one pictured). There was only one door I didn’t open and it was to the attic, so who knows what kind of subconscious terrors lie there. Then I wanted to go to the beach so I did. It was a big beach like the ones in southern California (where the distance from the water to the street seems like a mile) but the sand and water was like a Hawaiian beach. Anyway have you guys ever had a lucid dream before? So trippy. Next time I’ll try flying lol.

In other news I read this article from the Guardian asking the question “Should museums return their colonial artefacts?” . It’s an interesting debate. I listened to the BBC podcast A History of the World in 100 Objects (all 100 episodes) and I was a bit shocked at all the items the British pillaged/obtained during their centuries of colonialism. I do think they should return the items if asked (much like returning indigenous remains). But if these museums returned all the items, would they have enough left for their own museum?

Black Dress & Straw Bag

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It might be because of the extra pooch I’m carrying around post-pregnancy, but I’ve been drawn to a lot of black this summer (I know, not a summer color). First I got this Pyne & Smith Linen dress in black (reviewed here—and someone on Insta commented the look was “summer witch” lol I like it) and then I got a Kowtow cotton romper in black (review coming soon) from theRealReal. Now I’m all about embracing the black in my wardrobe, and then balancing them out with some straw accessories. These are my summer vibes and I’m getting all the inspo from Pinterest!

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P.S. Here’s one of my favorite bloggers rocking the all black + straw bag look!

Weekend Update/Ramblings

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still from the documentary Ice on Fire

I watched the documentary Ice on Fire on HBO this past week and highly recommend it! It talks about the rising carbon dioxide levels and climate change, and ways we humans can reverse the damage we’ve done in hopes of preventing a complete global catastrophe. I learned a lot and I was also heartened to see that even though the US policy is in complete denial about this, that other countries are leading the charge towards change. The picture up top shows the top 19 solutions to reverse climate change and it’s interesting to see what I can control (reduce food waste and a plant-rich diet) but more importantly what other non-environment related social changes can reverse climate change (like educating women and family planning). I was planning to do my part by not having any kids but oh well guess that’s out the window. I’ll have to try to become a vegetarian instead.

Also this post about plastic liners in food packaging led me to this article about the harmful effects of some types of plastics that replaced BPA (so that manufacturers can say it’s “BPA-free”). And now it’s made me scared again of anything plastic in food packaging/water bottles/plastic containers that can leach into food, especially for my baby. Just another reason to stay away from plastic.

Anyway if it’s not one thing it’s another and some days I feel like humanity (and the planet we live on) is doomed.

What I Wanted and Bought in June

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What I Wanted

Within the first week of June, I was clicking around and somehow came upon these mules from Jenni Kayne (pictured above). Looove this new neutral color they have for the summer and I reeeaaally wanted them. But alas, I again did not buy them because $395 is just too much to spend on shoes for me right now. I guess I’ll continue to stalk The RealReal for a pair of these.

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Also wanted but not purchased was this Mansur Gavriel Protea bag in a new color called Biscotti with a cream interior. So dreamy!

What I Wanted & Bought

I bought a new foundation for the first time in a long time. I was tired of my super matte powder foundation (so old that it’s no longer being sold) and my super shiny Suntegrity tinted sunscreen (which I’ve been using for 2 years). So I went to look for something that could provide coverage but not be too matte nor too shiny. And I think I found it in this Bobbi Brown Skin Foundation. It goes on well with a beauty blender and doesn’t break me out.

I bought quite a few things for the baby this month including the Lovevery Play Kit for 3-4 month olds as well as the Lovevery Play Gym. I hadn’t purchased any toys for Emi yet and now at 3 months she’s starting to play with things (so fun!). So I thought I’d try out the things from Lovevery (dang their Instagram marketing got me *facepalm*). My review of their Play Kit was posted just 2 days ago.

As for what I clothes I bought myself this month: I saw the Esby Duffy Jumper on Brianna here and loved it so much I immediately scoured the internet for a used one. I was lucky to snag a denim blue version of the Duffy Jumper on eBay. I’ll be doing a review of it soon, but let me just say this one is not going to be sticking around my wardrobe for very long.

And summer dresses from Everlane are my weakness (along with their shoes, bags, and button-down shirts) so I couldn’t resist trying out this year’s version, which includes a new version of the collarless shirt dress (their 2017 version has been one of my favorite dresses from Everlane). Love that this year’s version has 3/4 length sleeves! Also decided to try their picnic dress just to see. Oh and I got the easy shorts because I looove love love my easy Chinos that these are modeled after. Also I no longer fit into any of my shorts from pre-pregnancy so there’s that. Will let you know how I liked them all in a review soon!

And finally I’ve been craving some summery straw accessories but I’ve been buying enough new stuff so I decided to hit up eBay, the RealReal and some thrift stores in town to satisfy these cravings. I was able to find an old Ralph Lauren straw bucket bag on eBay and a cheapo straw hat at a thrift store. I also had tried a Janessa Leone straw hat that was gorgeous, but also $140 used (retails for $275 new!) and decided I didn’t wear hats enough to justify buying a hat that expensive. So I returned it. If I end up wearing this thrifted one a lot then I might think about getting a Janessa Leone one in the future.

I’m planning to do a No Buy July, so I hope next month’s post will be about all the things I wanted but did not buy :)

Unsponsored Lovevery Play Kit Subscription Review {Updated April 2022}

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We have been lucky enough that a friend has let us borrow all their baby toys until their baby number 2 comes along. So up until now, we hadn’t bought anything for Emi. So that was my excuse when I decided to try out the Lovevery Play Kits. For $80 every 2 months (or basically $40 a month—the price of a gym membership), Emi gets a curation of thoughtful, well-designed, Montessori-based toys that stimulates her developing brain. It is as good as it seems or did I just fall for Instagram hype?

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My first impression of the toys were that they are simple but quality made. The wooden toys (made with sustainably sourced wood) are super chic and feel smooth and sleek. The cotton they use is organic and I know they’ve done their research so that all materials are safe for babies mouths. There are some plastic toys in the mix, like a crinkle bag and some plastic (feels like rubber) rings but they serve a purpose (for sound or for touch). There’s there’s not an excessive use of plastic in their selection of toys.

I also love that each box comes with a set of notecards that not only tell you how to use each toy and how they’re helping with your baby’s brain development, but they also tell you what to expect for those months and tips on how to interact with your baby outside of using their toys. And these notecards come with little pep talks and words of encouragement that are nice to read when you’re feeling especially tired (which is pretty much all the time lol).

Since I don’t plan on going to a toy store or buying Emi any toys during my free time, I love that these boxes are delivered to my door and all the guesswork is taken out. Also if you subscribe to their email or instagram, they have other play ideas using objects you can find around the house (like a muffin tin and balls or a balloon tied to her leg—which is her current favorite activity). So even if you don’t buy their products, they’re still a useful brand to follow.

So far Emi is still getting the hang of these toys since they’re still a bit advanced for her (okay so I lied on the page where they asked for Emi’s age-lol, I didn’t want the first box so I said her birth date was a month before her actual birthday). And it even says on the notecards to keep introducing the toys to her multiple times because at this age they won’t get it right away. But I try out different toys daily and it’s been fun to see her developing. The first time I showed her the ring, she couldn’t even grasp it with my help. Now she can reach out and grasp it, though she doesn’t hold onto it very long. Someday she’ll be able to grasp it, hold it and bring it to her mouth. Then she can feel the difference between the two rings included in the box (one is a hard rubber, the other is soft, stuffed, and made of cotton). But literally baby steps right?

So all in all, I do think these play kits are 100% worth it. Especially for the busy parent who wants high quality, educational type toys. It is slightly a pain that you have to subscribe for the whole set to get even one box to try. But just select the pay as you go option (so it’s a full $80 every two months instead of $72) and it’s really easy to stop your subscription at any time. I actually stopped it so that 1) I could see how easy (or hard) it was for the purposes of this review but also because 2) I wasn’t all that excited about the toys in the 5-6 month box. I plan to restart my subscription for the 7-8 month box (which also seems super easy—just a click of a button).

And for those who want to be frugal about the toys they buy their kids, I’ve seen a new Play Kit sell on ebay for $71 and a used one missing a piece for $41 (so you’re looking at a $20 per month price, but I’ll update this review with what I’m actually able to sell it for when I do eventually list it on eBay).

Anyway I’ll also update how Emi plays with these toys as she gets older and my overall impression in a couple of months (and also whether or not I decide to continue my subscription).

P.S. I loved their subscription box so much that I decided to go for their play gym mat as well. You can read my review of that here.

August 2019 update: She’s had this play kit for about 2 months now, and even though she could be ready for the next box, she still loves playing with all the toys in the 3-4 month box. When she first got the box, she only could really play with a couple of the toys and they didn’t hold her interest for very long. But now there are a couple toys that she just loves (like the bell in the wooden circular cage and the crinkly little bag) that she can play for 5-10 minutes at a time (which is long for a baby’s attention span). Anyway we’re not quite ready to sell this box just yet since she loves it so much. And it’s been such a joy to see her grow into these toys like she does her clothes. I have to say I’m 100% satisfied with this lovevery purchase and will definitely be getting another box when she’s ready!

November 2019 Update: She’s 8 and half months and still playing with toys in the 3-4 month box, though I did go ahead and purchase the 7-8 month box. I’ll probably be selling the 3-4 month box soon, so this box had the lifespan of about 6 months (since I got it when she was 2 months old). I definitely don’t think you need to get the whole subscription but these boxed sets work even if you only pick and choose certain stages. I am definitely going to be purchasing another play kit, probably the more expensive toddler phase ones that is supposed to last 3 months.

December 2019 Update: I finally sold the 3-4 month play kit on ebay for $50+$10 shipping, which sounds like a good deal but be forewarned shipping cost $20 through USPS—though it depends how far you have to ship it. I sold it to someone in Illinois so that’s basically over halfway across the country. Anyway I sold it within 2 days with really crappy photos, which tells me I probably could have asked more for it if I had taken better pictures. So I think if you’re willing to do the selling, this play kit will set you back about $30-$40 for 6-7 months of use. That’s not too bad in my opinion!

June 2020: I purchased the first toddler play kit ($120 for toys spanning 3 months) and again I love the quality and Emi loves playing with them. I should note that since writing this original post, Lovevery lets you skip boxes so you don’t have to subscribe/unsubscribe. They will send you an email letting you know when the next box ships and you can opt out of it through the “Manage my subscriptions” tab. I should also note that if you get the 7-8 months play kit like I did, make sure you don’t leave the Ball Drop Box on the ground by the time your kid is of walking age. Emi fell and hit her head on the corner of the box (placed on a wooden floor) and we had to do an injury clinic visit in the middle of the coronavirus pandemic (it was awful but luckily she was alright). In general, now that Emi is walking, I leave the wooden box toys (there’s two in the 13-15 month set) on the carpeted section of the house just in case. But in general after having purchased several play kits over Emi’s first year of life, I would say that Lovevery is definitely worth it.

May 2021: Yep, we’re still getting these Play Kits ($120 for 3 months when they’re over 1) and I have to say they’re even better now than they were before. Lovevery is continuing to improve their boxes with better toys, and now that Emi is 2 two, she’s been enjoying the toys more than when she was an infant. We are still skipping boxes (currently we’re still playing with the 22-24 month one and she’s 26 months). But even the earlier boxes are still challenging her so I don’t feel the need to get new toys every 3 months. Every 6 months, for us, is a great schedule. Anyway just wanted to add this update because if you were to ask me if Lovevery is worth it even now, I would say 100%!

April 2022: Emi’s 3 now and we’re still getting these play kits. I still love these quality educational toys that are mostly wood. I think as they get older, the toys are even more worth it since they really have put some thought in them. I’ve also noticed that they keep editing the boxes so that the next iterations of the play kits are evne better than the first (ngl I was a bit jealous of my friend’s kids’ (who are younger) playkits because they’re better than the ones Emi had lol).

Weekend Update/Ramblings

This is going to be more of a rambling post so feel free to skip, but I was thinking the other day of what life would be like if I suddenly went blind. My first thought was I would be sad to not see my baby’s face as she grew older. My second thought was I’d probably continue this blog, lol but probably with no photos and via dictation. I also thought I would probably not buy any new clothing because I wouldn’t be able to picture in my head how the outfit would look. I would continue to wear the same stuff because I’ll at least know which combos look good. I’d also probably sell off all my jewelry because if I can’t look at it, what’s the point. Oh, and I would like to be able to swim as a form of exercise. Then I felt immensely grateful for my vision. How much easier is life when you can see! Do you sometimes have these kinds of thoughts or is it just me?

I’m also thinking of doing another No Buy July (like I did last year). I don’t really believe in shopping bans, since my failed attempt at a shopping ban in 2017 (after which all my old shopping habits resumed to a degree). But a shopping detox- a type of cleanse if you will- is probably refreshing. Plus I like that it rhymes so I’m going to try make it a yearly thing haha.

On a more serious note, last week was my husband’s first father’s day and my first father’s day without my dad. It was bittersweet to say the least. I really wish my dad could have met Emi, especially since he really wanted a grandchild. But I guess that’s how life goes sometimes.

Unsponsored Pyne & Smith Linen Dress Review

Pyne & Smith have been on my radar a long time since they’re an ethical fashion blogger favorite. If you’ve been reading ethical style blogs for a bit, I’m sure you’ve come across them already. But I took my time getting to them since A) I already purchased way too many linen items last year (mosty Elizabeth Suzann and Only Child) and B) Their cute linen dresses weren’t really my style. But when Salina had a promo code that gave me a 10% discount and she donated her commission to charity, I decided it was the best time to give them a try. And as much as I wanted to get some linen overalls, the $248 price was a bit out of the range I was looking to spend. So a happy medium was this long sleeved no.12 dress in black linen for $165 that could be dressed up or down.

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{Wearing: Pyne & Smith no.12 dress, Martiniano Glove Shoes (reviewed here), Acne Studios Musubi Bag (reviewed here)}

First a little background on the company if you’re not familiar: they make all their linen clothing in Southern California from European flax (grown in Belgium and France, and milled in Lithuania). Joanna is the founder and designer behind the brand, and she even answers all the emails sent to the company! You can read more about her and the brand here.

Now about the dress. I ordered it in the medium size after taking a look at the measurements here. I would normally be a size small but I decided to be a bit more cautious and order a size up post-pregnancy. I started ordering a size bigger than my normal because I’ve come to grips that I’m not the same size that I was and that’s ok! And if I ever shrink back to my pre-baby weight, then this dress can easily accommodate that since there’s a tie at the back so I can cinch it smaller. And even in the medium, I find that the 42” length (only 0.5” longer than the small) is perfect for my 5’4” height. It’s not quite midi, but it hits below the knees (a true midi length would look quite dowdy I think). I also love the length of the sleeves, since it hits at a really flattering area of the arm. I also ordered this dress since I can unbutton it easily from the front to breastfeed (it’s a tad tight when trying to take off one arm while leaving the other side on but it’s definitely doable).

As for the linen quality, it’s superb! The actual weight of the linen is 200gsm which makes it slightly thicker than weight of the other Lithuanian slow fashion brands like LinenFox and NotPerfectLinen, but less thick than the linen used by Elizabeth Suzann and Only Child. You can see how they all compare in this ethical linen review post here, which I updated with the addition of Pyne & Smith. They don’t have the thickest linen but sometimes you want more of a midweight than a heavyweight linen (especially if it’s hot).

As much as I love the dress though, I was a bit disappointed when trying to unbutton the buttons to breastfeed I found that several of the buttonholes weren’t properly sewed. So the buttons would snag, which is especially aggravating when trying to quickly breastfeed a wailing baby. For an investment piece like this I would expect it to me impeccably made. But who knows, it might just be a one off with the specific maker of my dress. And overall I really do love the style, the ease of the dress, and the quality of the linen.

Why You Should Switch To Using A Safety Razor

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It took me a long time to come around to using a safety razor even though I’ve been on a zero waste journey for so long (a path that has switchbacks because hey, this journey is sometimes steep and difficult lol). Anyway I finally did some research and purchased this safety razor 6 months ago (while I was still pregnant) when I used up my last plastic razor refill. But then didn’t get around to using it because A) I was pregnant and couldn’t reach my legs anymore, B) It was wintertime, C) I was intimidated in using something that looked so surgical and at the same time D) Too lazy to learn how to put in the blade and use it. But finally I started using it because I was no longer pregnant and it’s summertime so I needed to start shaving these legs.

And tbh, I don’t know what took me so long! A safety razor is not scary at all, lol. It’s super easy to use, it’s great for my skin, and it’s really great for the environment. It’s a shame I used so many plastic razors for so long (even if they were made from recycled plastic like this one). Seriously, this plastic-free shaving option is so easy, it should actually be the first step in going zero waste (along with bringing your own bags to the grocery store).

The benefit of a safety razor isn’t just that’s it’s plastic free and good for the environment. There’s benefits for the user as well. If you have sensitive skin like I do, a safety razor is great because the single blade means that you’re not irritating your skin with multiple blades going over your skin at the same time. Yes, with a safety razor, which only has a single blade, you won’t have as clean of a shave all the time. But really it only takes one extra swipe over some areas to get the same result (you really don’t need 5 blades to get a good shave).

And you definitely do not need to go get a fancy shmacy razor like this one (even though that rose gold is oh so pretty). The one I got from Amazon (that looks like the photo above) is $29 and has a 4.5 star rating with over 1000 reviews. I did my research and this is one of the best. And even though the initial cost of a safety razor is more than a plastic one, the blade refills are pretty dirt cheap. On amazon you can get 30 blades for $20 (and that’s on the high end). Compare that to the 5 for $10 I was paying with the Preserve razor. Or for my next blade refill I’m going to try out Albatross, which is a local-to-me brand. Their blades go for 30 for $4.50! And I love that Albatross has a blade take back program to recycle the blades so you really are producing zero waste for shaving.

Now on how to use a safety razor. First putting in the blade is super easy (just be smart and be careful). Even though I don’t advocate spending $75 for a safety razor, the Oui razor site has a good intro on how to insert the blade here. Rather than holding the razor from the side to screw and unscrew, I hold the stem of the razor and twist the handle. And to shave with it, I watched this video. They have some good tips: hold the razor at a 30 degree angle and let the weight of the razor do the work (no need to add any pressure). I like to shave with the grain of the hair so I have the handle going down the leg, but if you shave against the grain you’ll have the handle side going up towards the body. And instead of buying shaving cream, I just use my Plaine Product Conditioner (yep I still use these zero waste bath products!).

So if you’re not yet using a safety razor, but are on the path of zero-waste this needs to be the next change in your lifestyle. It’s easy, painless and cheaper in the long run! And I promise you won’t regret it. Anyone else make the change to a safety razor and what did you think?

Weekend Update/Ramblings

I was surprised a by the tiny bit of negativity on my Everlane Day Crossover Sandal review by people who are judging the sandals without trying them. And it makes me wonder if it’s because I’ve been only doing positive reviews of Everlane items or if its because I’m back on the gifted items train. I have tried items from Everlane that I didn’t like, like the wedge sandals and their Tread sneakers, but I haven’t bothered writing reviews of them. It might sound selfish but I don’t want to waste time writing negative reviews of things I don’t like. I guess now with the baby and being currently jobless I’ve been skewing towards positive reviews that have the potential for some kind of reward (I’m human after all). But now that I’m more aware of it, I’ll try to take the time to review everything that comes my way: the good, the bad, and the ugly. This also makes me want to get a job soon so that I don’t feel like this blog has to make some kind of income for us to survive in the SF Bay Area (it’s tough out here on a single income). Anyway since Everlane hasn’t asked if I wanted anything for free in June (though there’s quite a few things I would have loved to try), I’ve fallen back on saving and using credits earned through my referral link (I know this is getting repetitive, but I’m always super grateful for those who purchased through my link because it allows me to try things for reviews, so thank you!). So I’ve ordered a couple of their summer dresses and their easy shorts (because I’m still 100% in love with my easy chinos, which look better now that they’re more worn in).

And as much I have a ton of favorite stuff from Everlane and I’m pretty much an Everlane addict, it is a bit disheartening to see so much go on their CWYP (choose what you pay) sale. Can a company still be called ethical and working towards sustainability when they overproduce so much? Or is that just the price of being a viable clothing company so that they can sometimes make items that are home-runs?

In other news I’ve been slowly rewatching Big Little Lies season 1 to get ready for season 2 (which already started). And I have to say, I’ve gained a new appreciation for the show now that I’m a mother myself. The trials of these women who try to be good mothers and yet still deal with their own issues as a person have new meaning to me. Also knowing how it ends, the beginning makes more sense to me now too lol. If you haven’t gotten on the BLL bandwagon yet, DO IT! (Though be warned there’s issues of rape and domestic violence so it’s not for everyone).

Oh and speaking of HBO shows, Gentleman Jack just finished and I looooved it. I think this is the first lesbian love story where I felt it was super romantic instead of being just gratuitous female on female sex scenes. I also love me a really good period piece so there’s that. After the show finished, I of course googled Anne Lister (aka Gentleman Jack) and found this interesting site, which shows her coded diary. But it also revealed that she wasn’t always the spurned lover, but in fact she rejected several women in search of the one to settle down with who had wealth and standing. It also reveals that according to her diaries, Anne Lister’s relationship with Ann Walker was not really a happy one—sad! Of course fiction is better than real life.

And finally this article is a good reminder to myself (especially since I’ve bought quite a few toys for Emi this month—though not cheap plastic ones).

Essentials for the Fourth Trimester and also What We Wasted Our Money On {August 2019 Update}

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The Essentials

  • Car seat (duh) and a stroller: Since we were lucky enough to be given a used stroller by some good friends we bought the same car seat they used (since they already had the converter bracket for that car seat). Also this car seat was the one all our friends used as well as the one I saw the most often at the lactation consultants so it must be good, right?

  • A Bassinet or a Pack n Play with bassinet: We purchased this Pack n’ Play with the sleeper addition, which we used for her first month. There are warnings not to let your baby sleep overnight in the sleeper, but we liked that the sleeper had an option to very slightly incline her to reduce reflux. But we took that risk since we had her swaddled and she couldn’t flip or turn her head yet and she was sleeping right next to me (and actually not sleeping for very long at a time at that). For a completely safe option use the bassinet set-up of the Pack n Play or the Snoo. And a note about the Snoo: according to my friend who used it with her second kid (but not the first), it’s absolutely worth it because you don’t have to stay up to rock your kid back to sleep. The Snoo does it for you! You can rent one like she did here.

  • Diaper changing pad with clip in straps: No need to buy a whole diaper changing table, but a diaper changing pad like this one is helpful. We secured it to an old Ikea expedit shelf we’ve had for almost 10 years and voila, a diaper changing station. Our pack n play also came with a diaper changing station that my mom now uses when babysitting. That is also a handy option but can only last until the baby is 15 pounds or starts rolling over. Oh and no need to get a fancy diaper cover, we just cover it with puppy pee pads since she takes a big dump (aka poop-splosions) once in awhile and they’ll get on the changing pad. This way it’s one less thing to wash.

  • Water Wipes: Our baby has pretty sensitive skin (like most babies) and suffered from baby acne and still stuffers from various rashes every once in awhile. But she’s had zero diaper rash and I think it’s due to these wipes. We were turned on to these wipes at the hospital and they’re the best for newborn butts.

  • A baby carrier/wrap: I use the k'tan wrap but my friends love the solly.  My husband uses an ergobaby360 (with the cool air mesh which is key for those hot months) since it also distributes the weight to the waist instead of just the shoulders/back.

  • Dr. Brown baby bottles: I had planned to breastfeed but turns out I have very low supply so I needed to supplement with formula.  Having a couple of the newborn size bottles on hand with some formula (ready-to-feed instead of powder is better for newborns) took the pressure off when my milk didn't come in.  Also by registering at BuyBuyBaby and/or Amazon (I think it might be BuyBuyBaby but I'm not 100% sure), one of them sends your address to the formula companies and they send you samples as well as coupons of $5-$15 off (which saved me a lot of money).

  • A breast pump to increase supply: I didn't know I was going to get a free rental pump from Kaiser (the Medela Symphony, which I looove) so I went and bought the one my friends all recommended (the spectra s1—the s1 (the blue one) has a portable battery while the s2 (the pink one) needs to be plugged into the wall).  Your health insurance should also provide you with a free breast pump but usually the quality of that one is not great. I also bought the Willow Pump because I was wanted something even more portable and discreet. There are definitely pros and cons with all of them which I’ll detail in a breast pump review I’m working on.

  • A swaddle: It's hard to tell which one your baby will like.  We tried several (swaddleme, sleepea, and the halo sleepsack swaddle) and she only liked the halo sleepsack swaddle.  But a swaddle really helps her sleep, since without it she'll wake herself up by hitting herself with her arms. Also we purchased the muslin sleepsacks since these swaddles keep the baby pretty toasty. If you live in a warm climate, make sure the swaddle is lightweight.

  • Pacifier: We bought several different kinds along with this accessory to keep the pacifier weighted down (and thus less likely to pop out of her mouth). The one that worked best was this one, though when at home I let her suck on a clean pinky (that worked best of all). Also don’t get this pacifier because water and other liquids can get trapped inside the nipple and it looks really unsanitary. Oh and nipple confusion is just a myth according to Cribsheets by Emily Oster (seriously such a good book with advice based on evaluating the quality of the research out there. This book itself should be on this essentials list). We gave her the bottle and pacifier early on and our baby doesn’t have nipple confusion (she can both latch well and take the bottle well).

  • Some kind of sound machine: We bought this one for on the go (I was influenced by the instagram takingcarababies—she’s all about teaching kids how to sleep better) but have found the best solution to be “rain sounds” on the Amazon echo. Some kind of noise machine will usually help the baby sleep better.

  • Baby nail file: because their fingernails come out long and grow fast, and they’ll scratch themselves and you. Bring this one to the hospital with you if you want to prevent scratches (though even if they scratch themselves, their skin heals so fast!). This nail file is super gentle and doesn’t hurt the baby at all.

  • A receiving blanket/swaddle: I would just get one set and make sure it’s big enough for when your baby is larger than a newborn (we bought the newborn size and she grew out of that quick). These kinds of blankets are good for swaddling (if you rather not splurge on a easy to use swaddle like the ones above) and as a burp cloth in a pinch. Also for every doctor’s visit since they want the baby undressed (and sometime you don’t know how long you have to wait with a naked baby) so these make for a good cover-up. And you can use these to cover the car seat (instead of buying a dedicated carseat cover). You could probably also use these for a breastfeeding cover since they’re so large (just fold them in half and drape).

  • The NoseFrida: Our baby got a stuffy nose pretty early on so we’re happy we had this on hand. A safe and sterile way to clear your baby’s nasal passages.

  • A digital rectal/oral thermometer: Also good to have on hand so you can check if your baby’s sick.

  • The Boppy: This breastfeeding pillow really worked for me though it doesn’t work for everyone. It’s great for those long feeds when your arm gets tired from holding your baby up. I also used it early on like a dock-a-tot (a note on this below) where I would put her down right after a feed (it’s great because this also keeps her upright to help with any reflux issues). But I would make sure to always watch her when I would sit her up in the boppy this way (because I wanted to make sure her head didn’t tilt forward and close off her airway). I got mine at Burlington for $18 so that also made it very worth it!

The Non-Essentials

  • An expensive glider/rocking chair: We got this one since several friends recommended getting a high quality one that could later be used as a “story time chair.” But the baby’s room is small to begin with and this chair takes up a lot of space. I use it to rock her to sleep but she just cries everytime my husband tries to use it. I rather have invested in renting the Snoo to get her to sleep and just purchased or repurposed another chair to feed her in. Also an exercise ball like this one is great to bounce on while carrying your child to “rock” them to sleep.

  • Lactation cookies, teas, supplements: I tried fenugreek, lactation cookies, and this lactation tea along with the supplements from Legendairy. Nothing was the silver bullet that miraculously led to higher milk production. It just took time and consistent pumping (and power pumping). I’m still not where I need to be with milk production but I’m not sweating it anymore. Though I will say I think the sunflower lecithin from Legendairy works well. It’s meant to prevent milk duct clogs and I haven’t had one yet! I originally purchased it to help increase the fattier hindmilk release since I was making more of the foremilk, which I think was making the baby fussier. And the nice side effect is that I haven’t had to deal with any clogs.

  • Baby bottle sterilizer: We bought this one and used it only once since it was so complicated. Just boil some water and sterilize it that way. And then put it in the dishwasher every time after that.

  • Infant Car Cover Seat: I never needed one. And if I really wanted to cover her carseat, I would just use a receiving blanket. Then again we don’t take her out in the carseat all that often (we use the bassinet version of the stroller more).

  • Dock-a-tot: I originally purchase one thinking I would need it but when I didn’t use it for the first month I returned it (and saved myself $175). Babies shouldn’t sleep in the dock-a-tot unattended and if you really do want a place to put your baby down on the bed while you’re watching, one of these cheaper Amazon ones should do the trick. If anything it’s a nice to have but not a need to have.

  • A fancy video baby monitor: We bought the Nest camera for this purpose but I have yet to use it in any essential manner. I have looked at it time to time but only for fun. Maybe this will become more essential as she gets older but for me it’s been pretty useless. We also have a cheap sound baby monitor that we use to hear her cries from the other room. This is way more useful but in the beginning you don’t need it if she’s sleeping right next to you or if you have a small house. {August 2019 Update: Ok now that she can roll over and we are doing sleep training this is essential. I would not recommend then Nest camera though because now you can no longer disable the green recording light so when you’re spying on her, the green light will flash. And it has woken up our baby. We currently are making do and covering up the light with some tape, but if I were doing my registry over again I might have chosen something like the Nanit.}

And also just a note on getting discounts on things you’ll buy for your baby: if you register at Amazon, everything on that registry that remains unpurchased up to 6 months after your baby's due date is 15% off and the same goes for BuyBuyBaby, except they have 20% off all remaining items (but their prices are generally higher than Amazon's to begin with).  So I registered for high ticket items like a crib, crib mattress, and high chair even though I wouldn’t need those right away.  Actually I just threw stuff on there even after the baby was born since the 15% off can add up.  But you can only purchase things off of your amazon list in 2 (big) orders to get 15% off ( BuyBuyBaby is a one time 20% off).

So other mama’s out there, what were some of your fourth trimester essentials?

P.S. Here’s one of my favorite mommy blogger’s list if you want another opinion on what’s “essential” :)

Everlane Review: The Day Crossover Sandal

I’m a pretty big fan of Everlane’s Day line, from the Day Market bag (my most used bag) to the Day Heel Mule (my favorite heel). So when I saw the Day Crossover Sandal, I knew I had to give it a try*. And it did not disappoint! This might be my next favorite sandal from Everlane (and believe me, I tried quite a few from them—almost one a year). My first favorite sandal being the long gone Street Sandal from their early years.

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First a note on sizing, I got my usual Everlane size 8 and it worked perfectly. For those of you guys who have trouble with Everlane sizing, it’s all about paying attention to the factory where the shoes are made. Since each factory will have slightly different lasts (the foot mold that the shoes are made with), the sizing varies by production factory. For example, I know my “usual Everlane size 8” works best with the Montopoli in Val D’Arno factory in Italy (they made the Day Heel and Day Heel Mule) since they’re lasts are a tad wider in the front of the foot. But the lasts from their other Italian shoe factory, Santa Maria A Monte (they make the Day Glove and all the Slingbacks) are a tad longer and narrow and doesn’t usually work in my usual Everlane size 8. It’s a bit of a pain to do the extra research before purchasing, but I think that’s what happens when the brand is on the small side and has various production factories. But on the plus side, at least Everlane is transparent enough that you can do this extra bit of research and be a slightly better informed customer.

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Anyway back to the sandal. The Day Crossover Sandal is an absolute dream of a leather sandal. The crossover leather is super soft and molds to your feet, so it’s perfect for slightly wide feet like mine. There’s no chafing of any kind because of the double folded leather. The sole is made of that rubbery material they like to use (the same one that’s on the Day Glove) so it’s non-slip (however unfortunately not super eco-friendly). Also the sole is not too heavy and for me it doesn’t make that slipper slapping sounds (though I’m more of a heel dragger myself). This really is the perfect chic summer sandal and feels way more expensive than $88.

But I do have to add that there is zero cushioning on the sole, so if you can’t handle a hard surface (due to flat feet or plantar fasciitis) then this shoe is not for you.

I haven’t walked miles and miles in them so I can’t attest to how they will wear (I do have one concern that the soft leather might stretch out and I’ll update this review with that bit of info if they do). But I can see this being my nice sandal for the summer for backyard BBQs and casual dinners out. It’s certainly an upgrade from my Everlane street sandals, which have definitely seen better days.

Anyone else try the Day Crossover Sandal and what did you think?

*This item was gifted by Everlane though all opinions are my own.

P.S. Everlane is having their big summer sale right now (what they call Choose What You Pay) though the only thing that I love that’s on there currently are their Boss Mules. I love my black pair (reviewed here) and I wish they still had the bone patent leather ones still in my size (dang it, I knew I should have purchased the bone patent ones when they first came out). Everything else is just eh or very out of season.

P.P.S Just read Andrea’s newest post here and glad to see she loves her Day Crossover Sandals as well :)