What I Wanted and Bought in October

I’m sure no one noticed that I skipped the September version of What I Bought, so I’ll just mention here that I purchased (through credit from The RealReal) the Mansur Gavriel Mini Ocean Tote that I had been eyeing for awhile. I was also gifted from Everlane their Soft Day Tote. I guess when nothing fits because of my fibroids I go back to my favorite accessory (that I can wear no matter my size lol): bags.

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What I Wanted

Loewe Mini Lazo Bag: I was really tempted by this bag in Nordstrom Ala Moana in Hawaii because I saw it on Eva Chen on Instagram above (I’m so easily influenced >.<). I tend to buy my high end bags in Hawaii because the state has one of the lowest sales tax rates in the US (4.71%) as well as the best selection. I also had about $300 worth of Nordstrom gift cards so I was very tempted indeed. But in the end I was a responsible adult and did not purchase it because 1) I would still be out about $1500; 2) I tried on the bag and even through you would think it’s easy to pull in the handle straps to make it a compact crossbody, it isn’t; 3) they only had the leather and linen version like Eva’s and you know the linen is going to pick up dirt real quick; and 4) there’s no way to really secure the opening of the bag. These were all the ways I dissuaded myself from getting the bag and it worked. (Also I did not purchase despite all you enablers out there voting in my insta story poll lol).

What I Bought

Everlane curvy authentic stretch skinny jean: I got tired of waiting to fit back into my old jeans (which hopefully happens after my hysterectomy). So I decided to embrace my new “curvy” figure and buy some jeans that’ll fit. I’ll let you know how it goes in my review.

Everlane ReCashmere Varsity Cardigan: The ReCashmere line was something I’ve been itching to try since I’m all for products made from recycled materials (like Everlane’s ReNew puffer and Rothy’s shoes, both of which I love). $120 is pretty steep for a cardigan, but I guess that’s how it goes with the new tariffs.

Last Brand Italian Calfskin Crossbody and Last Brand Cashmere sweater: A reader asked me if I would do a review of a new Grana-like company based in SF called Last Brand and I obliged (since their stuff looks so minimal-chic and their price points are quite affordable). I’ll let you know what I think of these in a review coming soon!

Cartier Love Bracelet: I know I know, I’m outta my mind. But I have a whole post written up about why I decided to make this seemingly ridiculous purchase.

St. Agni Saul Mules (no longer sold): Oops forgot about this one (thanks Henny for helping me remember lol)! Got this off of the RealReal using some credit earned from their last event. A complete impulse purchase but I’m so glad I went for them since they’re perfect!

What I Was Gifted

Everlane Oversized Double Breasted Blazer: I caved and asked for this blazer when Everlane asked if I wanted anything from their October line-up. What can I say, I’m weak and a sucker for blazers. And even though I’ve said in the past that I no longer really have an occasion to wear blazers (since I don’t work in an office), I just can’t quit trying them. So far I’ve tried both Everlane’s oversized blazer and their academy blazer.

Weekend Update/Ramblings

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Sorry my posts have been slightly sporadic lately (sometimes posting on Tuesdays, sometimes Thursdays), but this was a travel week (ie flying back to Cali from Hawaii). I’m not one to travel too often (and each time it tires the heck out of me), but traveling with an infant is 100 times harder for sure. I look forward to staying home for awhile! Though I’ll still be busy with moving (yep haven’t moved into our house yet)+fibroid surgery+all the holiday stuff. Fun times.

This is something you guys all probably already know but buying less is better than buying green. This article was a good reminder that just because I’m buying “better” doesn’t mean I should keep buying. A “green materialist” as they call it, is a materialist all the same with a bunch of (“green”) things in a closet/house/etc. that will need to be taken care of and eventually responsibly disposed of. My favorite way of decluttering is to sell things since I know the new owner wanted the item enough to buy it (but this only works when you buy quality resellable things to begin with, ie no fast fashion). But still I wonder how simpler my life would be if I wasn’t constantly buying and selling things?

Also I’m still trying to finish my bottle of Sunday Riley’s Good Genes, which I like as a face mask (but it’s too strong for my sensitive skin if I leave it on as a treatment). But I mention this because I read this week about how Sunday Riley’s CEO made employees write fake reviews on Sephora and then I went and read some reviews of this product. Long story short, I can no longer recommend this product because of the dubious ethics of the CEO and they apparently reformulated the product so it no longer is as good as it once was. Since my bottle of Good Genes is at least a year old, it’s still the old formula and works well. But I guess the newer stuff is no bueno.

And lastly, I feel like adding some light blues and browns to my winter wardrobe this year. I don’t really want to buy anything new so I’ll try to see what I can come up with using what I already have. But the pics above are some of my inspo from pinterest and they got me excited to try some new combos!

P.S. Everlane is offering free 2-day shipping today!

Top 10 Favorite Things I've Blogged About

I wrote a post like this last March, so I thought it would be interesting to update this list because my top 10 favorite items have changed quite a bit. Is it because I’ve blogged about so many more new items or is it because as a human I always will love the new and the exciting? Well there are some repeats on here and I’d be interested to see how much this list will change/stay the same again next year.

ES Mara Jumpsuit + Celine Soft Cube Bag

1) Elizabeth Suzann Mara Jumpsuit (reviewed here) in both silk and linen (no longer made): I bought the silk one used and loved it so much that I also got a linen one later when it went on “sale” over at ES. I wear both constantly and they’re such work horses in my wardrobe. See how one of my favorite grammers, mayetteraisa styles her Mara during the #fauxfall10x10 challenge.

2) Celine Soft Cube Bag (reviewed here): One of the most worn bag in my closet and I did a 100 wears later post here. Currently using this bag for my one month in Hawaii and I’m in love with this bag again. It’s the perfect size, minimal yet chic, and can be carried by hand or across the body. I will never give this bag up!

3) Augustinus Bader Rich Cream: I reviewed it here and I still love it (just started my third bottle for the year—it lasts me about 4 months). I’m officially an AB Cream addict and it’s an expensive habit (though I justify it by saying I buy about 3 bottles a year for a total of about $800 a year and that’s still less than microneedling treatments or any other cosmetic procedure). My skin texture has vastly improved and I suffer from far fewer pimples than I used to before the cream. It’s no wonder this is a favorite cream for lots of people.

Everlane Jacket, Elizabeth Suzann Georgia Dress, Everlane Day Heel Mule, Celine Seau Sangle

4) Everlane Modern Utility Jacket (reviewed here): I don’t talk about this jacket a lot and it was only featured once during a 10x10 challenge, but I looooove this jacket. As soon as the weather is cool enough I wear it everywhere. It’s also a great dog walking jacket since there are multiple pockets and it’s water resistant. This one has become a classic in my wardrobe.

5) Thinx Underwear (on last year’s list): Still love my Thinx. It came in handy during my difficult pregnancy with multiple bleeds and leaking amniotic fluid during the end of the pregnancy (lol sorry TMI?). I liked them so much I ordered another couple of them just recently and wrote a new review of them here.

6) Storq Easy Pants: Loved these when I was pregnant and love them now that I have fibroids. Basically these easy pants are the best thing when you don’t want a constricting waist band around your tummy. It’s like wearing PJs in public.

7) Lovevery Toys and Play Mat: Of course this is for Emi and not for me, but when baby’s happy and occupied Mama’s happy and otherly occupied. I love that she can play on the playmat for (cumulatively) hours a day, it’s easy to clean, and so well built. As for the toys, she still loves some of her toys from the 3-4 month box (and she’s 7 months now). I liked the toys so much I went ahead and purchased the 7-8 month box in anticipation of her growing tired of her first set of toys but that has yet to happen. I expect her to play with her new toys until she’s a year old!

8) PACT Underwear (also on last year’s list): My faves are the lace waistband ones and my original pairs have held up great. They’re comfy, well-made, well-priced and made from organic cotton. I don’t know what more you could want for reliable underwear!

9) Martiniano Glove Shoes: Aka the Bentley of flats. I love these shoes for their buttery leather that not only make them super comfy but oh so luxurious. Even after recently purchasing Chanel ballet flats (reviewed here), I think the Martiniano Glove shoes are above and beyond a more luxurious shoe.

10) A Zero Waste Shower Routine: Ok, so this isn’t just one thing but I’m pretty happy with my total zero waste shower routine. On those days I feel like I don’t measure up or I’m not doing enough, being able to feel like I’m making some kind of progress every time I shower is sometimes the little boost I need.

Anyway this post has also helped me reflect on all the various things I’ve tried on this blog and I’m so grateful for everyone who comes here to read what I’ve got to say. Thank you to all of you guys who say the nicest things about my reviews and who make writing this blog worth it!

Weekend Update/Ramblings

Things have been quite busy for me as I wrap up all the things I need to get done while in Hawaii. I finally finished going through my dad’s apartment and have come away with 3 plastic bins of his and my Grandma’s stuff (including the photos above of myself, my mom, my grandma and my great-grandmother in kimonos). I’ll probably consolidate it down to one box someday, but for now I’m happy to only be taking 3 bins out of a stuffed apartment. I’m also finishing up his bank matters and I am so grateful for everything he left me. He never spent a cent on himself so I assumed all these years he didn’t have a lot to spend. Now I find that he saved every cent and chose not to spend it on himself. I need to be more like my dad. Also I’ve learned quite a bit about inherited IRAs this week and my one tip for those of you who have IRAs: don’t put them in a trust with the rest of your assets. For tax purposes just designate a beneficiary.

Anyway in other news I’ve finally given it up. After a year and a half of tracking what I wear (through the Stylebook App) I’ve decided to call it quits. During my time tracking my wears, I had a good chance to see what were my most worn items (which tbh you intuitively know already even without a clothing tracker because those items are the ones you always reach for). I also got to know what it feels like to wear something for 30 wears, 60 wears, and 100 wears. Thirty wears takes much longer than you think (at least 3 months or more for me). And 100 wears is super rare indeed (so much so that I dedicated posts to those 3 items that made it to the “100 club”). But now that I have a better idea of wear count it’s time to move on and get comfy with my seasonal uniforms. I think it’s worthwhile for everyone to spend some time tracking the wears of their clothing because it really does give you a good sense of closet utilization. But at some point we all have to call it a day.

And if Louis Vuitton is making bags in Texas and paying their workers $13/hour I’m going to be passing on LV bags for awhile. It seems to me they’re increasing their profit margins and not increasing quality. Plus the whole collaboration between Arnault (the CEO of the LV group) and Trump is such a big turn-off. I’ll be boycotting LV for the foreseeable future. Then again, I don’t currently have anything from LV in my bag collection so I guess I’m not really into them anyway.

Everlane's Choose What You Pay Sale

Everlane has added some new item to their CWYP sale and there are some items on there that are too good not to mention. If you’ve been eyeing any of these things from my reviews, this is a good time to buy (especially since these old stock items weren’t tariffed the way the new items are now plus they’re on discount).

The Boss Mules (reviewed here): I still love ‘em and wear them constantly (in fact I just wore them in my last Linenfox review). And just in time for the season: I call them my witch shoes. They’re great for elongating the leg since they’re so pointy.

The Cotton Collarless Shirtdress (reviewed here): This is the 2017 version and one of my most favorite dresses from Everlane. It’s great for petite gals since it’s short and can be belted at your natural waist.

The Cotton Weave Collarless Shirtdress (reviewed here): This is the 2019 version which I love for the slightly puffed 3/4 sleeves. I’ve also worn this as a duster inspired by the much more expensive shirtdress from Hackwith Design. Again this is best for petite women since it’s short. For taller girls, the cotton weave picnic dress is a nice option (and it’s also on sale).

The Linen Pants (reviewed here): A great affordable pair of linen straight leg pants got even cheaper. I kind of wish I had waited for these prices before purchasing mine. These have a drawstring waist so it feels like you’re wearing linen PJs, but the black color make them look appropriate for wearing in public.

The Renew Lightweight Puffer (reviewed here): I love my Renew Puffer and wear it constantly. It’s the perfect layer for misty morning or cold California winter days. They also have other styles for sale including the Renew half-zip puffer.

Cashmere sweaters (reviewed here): And if you love cashmere but don’t want to spend too much, Everlane’s CWYP cashmere is such a great deal. If you can, I would recommend purchasing cashmere pieces that were originally more than $100. I just don’t find their $100 cashmere to be of that great quality. I love Everlane’s textured cashmere and this rib mockneck version looks dreamy.

Anyway for those who are interested in Everlane, I highly recommend these items!

Weekend Update/Ramblings

This past week I messaged one of my all-time favorite Instagrammers, Jamie of AnnStreetStudio, with a zero-waste suggestion to use these aluminum bento boxes for her cheese take-out. And I was a little too excited when she responded haha. I know big grammers are regular people but it kind of felt like I was chatting with a famous person. Anyway those aluminum bento boxes have been great for packing snacks on the plane, they’re leak proof and really quite light. I also plan to use them when I take out poke here in Hawaii to reduce my own use of single use plastic.

As for me the cleaning of my dad’s apartment goes on. My dad has been living in this apartment since childhood and though he had a couple decades where he didn’t live there, he’s been there for the last 30 years with my grandma who passed away 3 years ago. And they were two peas in a pod when it comes to not being able to throw anything away. I now know what a lifetime of plastic bag hoarding looks like (along with paper bags, gift boxes and bags, plastic nut containers, and cookie tins). Believe me, all that fills a 800 sq ft apartment from floor to ceiling with only narrow pathways of walking space in the bedrooms. And I see those hoarding tendencies in myself because I feel bad to have to throw some of that away. But at least my mom is taking all those plastic bags and plans to use them to last her lifetime (since Hawaii finally banned free flimsy plastic bags at grocery stores). Currently we’re using them to throw out all of Emi’s poopy diapers since we don’t have a diaper genie here.

And speaking of poop, I read this article this week about Waste Water Sanitation companies repackaging human feces as fertilizer and now it’s making people sick. This seems to be a common practice (about 60% of this sewage sludge is going to be spread over farmlands this year). So if you live near farms (especially in Maine, Michigan, Wisconsin, Alabama, and Florida) please be informed since many farmlands there are now contaminated with the chemicals from human feces. And one of those chemicals is PFASs (poly- and perfluoroalkyl substances). That’s the stuff used for non-stick pans, stain resistant fabrics, and fire-fighting foams. PFASs are not biodegradable and persist in humans and the environment (a “forever chemical”). They are associated with health issues like cancer, hormone disruption, and immune suppression in children. And we in California might be drinking this stuff through our water system. Most household filters can’t filter out PFASs. As you can see I went down a bit of a rabbit hole on this subject (it’s the public health nerd in me) and now I’m looking into an activated charcoal filter like this one or reverse osmosis filtration system for my house.

My Zero-Waste Shower Routine

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I don’t know how it is for you, but getting to any kind of consistent zero-waste routine has been quite a struggle for me. So now that I’ve got my shower routine down to zero waste I couldn’t be prouder. Granted, this stuff is pretty low hanging fruit. But still it’s progress, right? So here are the ways my shower routine is now zero waste:

1) Shampoo, Conditioner, and Body Wash from Plaine Products

Yep, reviewed this back in 2017 and I’m still going strong. However, shipping back the aluminum cans can be kind of a pain so I’m looking into ordering from The Good Fill next (they ship their products in reusable plastic pouches that you ship back and you use your own containers—I’ll be reusing the Plaine Product containers of course).

2) Organic Cotton Washcloths from Muji

I’ve never blogged about these before but I love my organic cotton Muji washcloths. They’re thin enough that when they’re full of soap and water they don’t get super weighed down. And they’re just enough gentle exfoliation for my sensitive skin. I’ve been using them for years and they’ve held up like a champ.

3) Safety Razor

And the new zero waste love of my life is my safety razor, which I reviewed here. No cuts or nicks yet—you just have to use the very slightest of pressure. Also I use the Plaine Products conditioner as a shaving cream. But if you’re prone to cuts with a safety razor I recently found this other zero waste razor that is more like traditional razors.

Okay so yes that was a pretty short list. But really that’s all it takes to be zero waste in the shower. For my face wash, I use these small microfiber wash cloths to remove make-up and these cotton rounds for toner. Unfortunately my favorite face wash for acne-prone skin and toner don’t yet come in a zero-waste option. But my beauty routine is one of the next things I want to tackle to make zero waste. Anyone have tips for zero waste beauty?

Weekend Update/Ramblings

Hi y’all, how are you guys doing? I’m currently in Hawaii and it’s H-O-T and humid. Emi did great on her first airplane ride and slept through half of it. Though that night she cried for an hour before going to sleep from over-tiredness. But we survived! So far we’ve been busy visiting family so we haven’t done anything really exciting (though we did get out to the beach for a bit but Emi wasn’t really a fan lol). I also started cleaning up my dad’s apartment and it’s been rough. I miss him very much and I can’t help thinking he would have loved to meet his granddaughter. At the same time I see how he’s kept every single thing I’ve made (most of which I don’t even remember making) and I feel his love even though he is not here anymore. Anyway we’ll see how long it all takes but I’m motivated to get it done asap.

Completely changing topics now but have you see Inside Bill’s Brain on Netflix yet? If not, I highly recommend watching it. He is really trying to move some mountains and I support him all the way, including his endeavours in nuclear energy and especially in his efforts to improve sanitation to reduce childhood death by diarrhea. I would include this documentary in my list of “must-watch” tv, which also currently includes Ice on Fire on HBO. If these two documentaries don’t convince you of climate change and the need to change our ways, then nothing will.

Everlane Review: The Texture Cotton Crop Cardigan {Updated October 2020}

When Everlane came out with their texture cotton crop cardigan (aka the babaa dupe) last year, I have to admit I was put off by the 27% nylon content of the yarn they used for this knit (vs. the 100% cotton weave of the babaa). But now I have to get off my high-horse and admit I was wrong for looking down on this dupe because it’s a pretty great sweater.

{Wearing: Everlane Texture Cotton Crop Cardigan, Elizabeth Suzann Harlow Dress (reviewed here), Martiniano Glove Shoes (reviewed here), Celine Small Cabas Phantom (reviewed here)}

First of all, I do feel Everlane wades into some shady waters when it copies the design of smaller ethical and more expensive brands. Call it the Zara-move if you will. But at the same time, I could never really pull the trigger on a babaa cardigan (even when they had their sale in July). And as much as some of us love to support small brands, we can’t always spend that kind of dough. I actually was lucky enough to try the babaa cardigan in person at West Coast Craft and I didn’t love it enough to spend $250+ on it. So when Everlane offered me something free to review, I succumbed to temptation and asked to try this cardigan. And I have to say I love the way it fits more than the babaa version, and maybe it’s because of the nylon. The Everlane sweater overall feels less bulky and I appreciate the stretch it has over the babaa one.

And as much as I prefer an all-natural fiber and no plastic in my clothing, there are advantages to plastic. Not only does the nylon make the sweater stretchier and lighter but it helps retain the shape of the sweater. I’ve decided to take the “treat plastic like gold” disposition with this sweater and treasure it as if it did cost $250.

Anyway I’m wearing a size small here and feel like it’s the perfect fit for 5’4” me. I find the sleeves a bit long so I need to roll them up. I really love the drop shoulder detail and the overall cropped fit. I can’t wait to wear this cardigan more in the fall and style them with other outfits. I have a feeling this cardigan is going to be a staple in my wardrobe!

{October 2020 Update: So after having this sweater for over a year, I have to say that sadly it isn’t as great as I first thought it was. My main issue with it is that once the sweater snags the nylon fibers, the fibers break super easily and you’re left with a stringy mess. It can’t be pulled back in so I end up having to cut the fibers to clean up the look. After admiring the babaa cardigan for so long (2.5 years!) I finally purchased it and now understand why there’s such a cult following for babaa. I have to admit it was idealistic of me to think I could treat plastic like gold and think it would work out. Sometimes the original thing is better than a substitute. But I also understand if the original is not within your budget, then yes maybe treating the dupe like the original might work—but only if you’re careful with your sweaters. And sadly I am not.}

Amazon Prime Wardrobe Review

What I ended up keeping through Amazon Prime Wardrobe

So when I first heard about Amazon Prime Wardrobe, I thought do we really need another method to buy more clothes? Basically it’s a service available to Prime members that allows you to try items for free at home, and they will only charge you for the things you keep. So it’s $0 upfront. But if you don’t return the items within 7 days, you’ll be charged for everything you ordered. So it’s probably a service best for those who are good about returning packages. It’s sort of like those try-at-home subscription style service but you choose what you want (with a minimum of 3 items per box). You could also have a stylist pick out clothes for you for a fee, but we’ll see if that really catches on. And though I wouldn’t personally use Amazon Prime Wardrobe to buy more clothes (I already have enough on my wishlist from slow fashion brands), I did take the opportunity to try out different sleep sacks for my baby since I wasn’t sure which one she’d like best. She was super picky when it came to which swaddle she liked best (we tried 3 different kinds and her favorite was the Halo Sleep Sack Swaddle). This time I’m going to try out the sleep sacks before committing to buying one.

Well their marketing works because even though I was only planning to keep one sleepsack, I ended up with two (granted one is a larger size for her to grow into). The one she liked are the ones by Burt’s Bees. The package itself comes with a return shipping label and a resealable plastic mailer so the return is super easy. Just indicate on your Amazon prime wardrobe page what pieces you’ll be keeping and then return the rest via UPS. Amazon will also send you reminder emails for when it’s time to send things back. Once you return it, the items you kept will be charged to your card. I guess it’s not too different from just buying it outright and then returning something for a refund, but at least you don’t have to pay the upfront cost.

Has anyone else tried Amazon Prime Wardrobe and what did you think?

Weekend Update/Ramblings

via: Loved this fall inspiration look. It’s the It’s-Fall-And-I’m-A-Busy-Mom look lol

Thank you to everyone’s kind comments and support from last week’s weekend update. I’ve decided to look at the bright side of these fibroids and am grateful that it’s a wake-up call to take care of my health more. In an effort to shrink the fibroids I’m laying off the booze and red meat (which the internet tells me can lead to fibroids/fibroid growth). And because of that, I’m feeling overall quite healthy. Maybe this is just the start for me to eat more of a plant-based diet.

Starting next week I’ll be in Hawaii with Emi for a month. She’ll finally meet her paternal grandmother and great-grandmother, along with all my uncles, aunties and cousins. I’m also going to spend several weeks clearing a lifetime of my dad’s clutter. But first I have to pack (I’ll spare you a packing list post because do people really read those kinds of posts? I don’t because obvi we just pack what we need to pack from the things we have available). We also need to get through a 5 hour plane ride. I’m trying not to be too anxious about it because I don’t want Emi to sense that anxiety when we get on the plane. Luckily we spoiled ourselves by buying Emi her own seat because neither of us wanted to hold a 20-pound (yes 20 lbs!), squirming 6-month old for 5 hours (even with taking turns).

Anyway this is all to say my scheduled posts are running out and there might be some radio silence over on the blog. But I’ll try to keep up with my insta-stories (because who doesn’t want to insta-story a Hawaii trip lol).

P.S. Have you guys seen The Mind Explained on Netflix yet? I loved all the episodes and it reminded me I need to pick up my meditation practice again.

KOTN Review: The Oat Henley Dress

I first mentioned this henley dress in my What I Didn’t Buy in July post because even though I was eyeing it, I didn’t purchase it. And well sometimes I guess good things do come to those who wait because it was on sale in early August. But also because it was on sale, I was unable to return it…which unfortunately is what I would have liked to have done. But first, here’s my full impression of this KOTN dress.

KOTN markets themselves as an ethical company that makes premium quality basics from Egyptian cotton. But to be honest, I don’t feel their cotton to be exactly “premium quality.” The cotton material feels quite thin. PACT’s organic cotton tee dress felt immensely more premium (which I loved and reviewed here), and even Everlane’s regular cotton feels better than KOTN’s. I guess it all depends on what you define as premium. I like my cotton garments to have some thickness to them. While KOTN’s cotton does feel silkier, it’s a lot thinner. Also this might be fine for tees, but as a dress I prefer thick cotton. Also I think organic cotton is better than conventional cotton (no matter where it’s grown) because conventional cotton uses a lot of pesticides.

Anyway this is to say that I was disappointed in their cotton, and because the fabric was so thin the dress is a bit sheer. Plus the style was not great: the slit up the leg was way too high while the general dress length was too long (I think the site model in the pic above is 5’9” for reference. I’m 5’4”). Thus you won’t see me model it here. I almost didn’t write this review, but decided that this might be informative for those who are thinking about trying KOTN. If you do, I would go for a shirt over a dress, or if you do go for a dress a darker one would be less sheer. As for me, this was a total miss >.<

Weekend Update/Ramblings

Ahoy there my blog mateys. It’s been quite awhile since my last weekend update post, but like I said in past posts I’m suffering from a bit of blog burnout. But I’m slowly getting back into the groove of things and thought I’d write one of these personal posts for this week. I have to admit, one of the reasons for my general funk is my fibroid issue. I did an MRI and they found several fibroids in my uterus, the largest one measuring 20x21cm (that’s bigger than some newborns!). The growth of the tumors is a recent thing (sometime in the last month or so). They gave me a shot to hopefully reduce the size of them, before doing the hysterectomy scheduled in December (the shot will also mimic early menopause so I get to look forward to that). I seriously look pregnant again and am dreading a stranger asking me when I’m due. I was thinking of coming up with a bogus due date so I wouldn’t have to go through the awkwardness of telling them I’m not pregnant.

The fibroids have also been a big buzzkill for putting together outfits for the blog. All my pants are too tight again. I’m back to my pregnancy outfits that I pretty much wore all last year and yet I do not want to buy more clothes. So I’m making do with what I have but it’s been pretty boring around here outfit wise.

Anyway I’m trying not to get too caught up thinking about these tumors growing in my uterus and keep telling myself, this will all pass by the end of the year. And I don’t want to waste Emi’s precious baby months preoccupied. So I try to keep present and stop any feelings of shame about my body.

Plastic is Wonderful

Well that’s not a title you see very often in this day and age. That’s probably something that was touted in the 60’s when the harmfulness of plastic was still unknown. But just as the quote “money is the root of all evil” is technically misquoted from the Bible (it’s “the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil”), I think saying all plastic is bad is also imprecise. In this case “disposable plastic is bad”, would be the more accurate phrase. Because tbh, I can’t imagine living a life without plastic. It’s man-manipulated stardust if you will. They’ve allowed for modern miracles and have prolonged our lives in general (think of all the plastic necessary in hospitals and saving lives). So this post is an ode to my favorite items made of plastic!

My plastic water bottle: My constant companion.

My collapsible salad bowl: I originally purchased it for use in trailer life, but I love this bowl for everything. It’s lightweight and doesn’t slide.

The NoseFrida: for helping to suck out my baby’s boogers in the gentlest way possible

The Everlane Nylon (Original) Anorak: been using it for 3 years and plan on wearing it forever

Erasable Frixion pens with refills: These are my go-to pens for everything including writing checks, writing in greeting cards and writing in my notebooks because they are erasable (but look like normal pen ink). And I always buy refills now because there’s no point in buying a brand new pen every time.

The Away Suitcase: It’s lightweight and undentable. I can’t imagine owning luggage that wasn’t made of plastic.

The 5% elastane in some of my clothes: I’m grateful for the comfort that the stretchiness of the fabric allows. I can wash it in the washing machine without it losing its shape. Nowadays I try to stick to mostly natural fibers but am ok with some plastic in it sometimes as long as I wear the item as much as possible and as long as possible.

I could probably keep going on and on here but my point is that we need to change our mindset about plastic. It’s not all bad. We just need to treat it with the respect it deserves, thus using it wisely and reusing as much as possible. Disposable plastic is what’s killing our planet, so we need to end those practices and habits (for me that would be pre-washed and pre-made salads and other packaged foods). Plastic is a non-renewable resource that I plan to treat like gold, not trash.

This girl is on firrreee: six months on FIRE

I had originally written this post over a month ago (before we purchased a home). So even though we’re not quite on the FIRE track, we’re still working on it. Anyway here is the original post:

(Lol, you know I’ve been just itching to make those FIRE puns). Anyway for those who aren’t familiar with FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early), it’s a movement to save money, put it towards investments, so that you have the financial freedom to do what you like (more about it here). You basically want to get to the point where your expenses are covered your passive income earned through interest of stock or rent collected on properties. I’m super grateful to have the privilege to work on my FIRE path. And a reader has asked what that looks like for me. Since I’ve only started 6 months ago (and this is a years-long or even decades-long plan) I’m very much still a newbie. There are many other experts out there who have achieved their FIRE number and right blogs about what it’s like for them.

The first step of our FIRE plan was to start tracking our expenses. We combined all our bank accounts and credit card statements under Mint so we could see where our money was going. My husband is the one organizing (ie categorizing expenses) and then he tells me how we’re doing. This is also the first time I’ve shared my accounts with him so now I’m much more careful what I spend my money on, knowing there’s going to be a second pair of eyes judging me (which is a good thing).

Also starting in December/January, we started to limit our expenses. The first thing we cut out was eating out. We used to eat out at least twice a week (and while we were running the Airstream business we would eat out twice a day about 6 times a week—crazy I know but we were busy running a business and we weren’t on FIRE). So February (before the baby came), was probably our lowest spend month ever in the history of us. Of course now with baby, we never eat out anymore. Though the temptation to get food delivery or takeout is high we resist, and we keep it to maybe one takeout a week if that (it has become a treat when we do). My husband brings lunch from home to work, even if that means a $3-4 burrito from Trader Joes (but it beats his at minimum $11 lunches he gets in downtown SF). I’ve also started clipping coupons for places we like to eat (like a BOGO for bagel sandwiches at Noah’s Bagels—such a good deal!), and that would be our treat meal out sometimes.

As for my blog expenses, I’m no longer just purchasing things willy nilly (though it may look like I still am acquiring a lot—but really this is me trying to be better). I’ve been buying a lot of things off of the RealReal when I want to try stuff (like the Martiniano shoes, kowtow romper, Chanel ballet flats, etc.). I sold off a bunch of things one month and instead of collecting a check, I decided to go with credit so I have revolving RealReal credit to try things. Also I’ve been selling things on eBay and have made my Paypal account a revolving credit account to try things for the blog. This also makes tracking expenses easier for my husband since he doesn’t constantly see an outgoing and incoming amount that’s not related to our daily life. I’m also tracking my blog expenses separately to make sure I’m not spending more than I’m earning.

And then we started investing our money into Vanguard Index funds. I’m no expert so I’m trying out several different index and mutual funds after reading up on them. So far they’re doing well but the market is currently down right now and we aren’t doing as well as they were. But of course that’s just how it goes with the stock market. If anything, now is the time to buy more (it’s on sale! lol).

It may sound like we’re only being frugal with the small stuff but that’s because we’ve gotten the big stuff luckily out of the way. No car payments with one really old car and one newer but used car. We’re both suuuuuper duper duper lucky not to have any college loans. We got really lucky also by being able to buy a house when we were young and then selling it when it was at a market high. Currently we’re living in an apartment but are looking to move back into a house. We’ll end up taking on some debt then but currently we are debt free. So yep, we’re focusing on the smaller savings now. But seriously all the small things add up. {Update: We purchased a house and are now in debt. We’re going to have to work extra hard in budgeting and keeping all other expenses low.}

Anyway if you’re new to the concept and want some practical tips, I recommend reading Your Money or Your Life. It’s what got me going down this path and really motivated to get my financial life in order. And I’m by no means there yet and am still constantly figuring out how to live with the FIRE concept.

Why I Think A Virtual Assistant is Essential

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I have a different sort of post today since I’m getting a bit fatigued about going on and on about clothes sometimes. Today I wanted to talk about how essential Amazon’s Echo (aka Alexa) has become in my new life with the baby. Here are the top ways I use Alexa and if you don’t currently have a digital assistant I highly recommend looking into getting one. You don’t know how convenient it is until you start using it.

1) Turning on and off the lights. We have both a smart plug connected to lamps as well as a smart switch wired into the walls so that we can just “Alexa turn on the living room” or “Alexa turn on Emi’s room.” This is especially useful when carrying a squirming baby or if you have your hands full in general. You can also turn on and off lights from different rooms.

2) When I was using the Medela breast pump (reviewed here), it didn’t come with a timer. So I would always call out to Alexa “start a timer for 15 minutes.” Again, no need to fiddle with a timer when I have my hands busy setting up the breast pump.

3) We use Alexa’s pre-programmed soothing noises for Emi’s sound machine. We just say “Alexa turn on rains sounds” and it’ll go on for an hour (you can also loop it so it goes on until you tell it to stop). We still have a mobile sound machine for when she sleeps in her stroller or at a friend’s house but we saved money on not having to buy a permanent at home plugged-in sound machine.

4) My husband especially loves music so he tells Alexa to play music all the time. We have it connected to our Spotify account so that we can pull up all our favorite playlists and artists easily. He’s also trying to expand Emi’s musical tastes early lol.

5) And as a reader called out in my Fourth Trimester Essentials post, a video monitor is essential for sleep training. You need to know if she is crying because she flipped over and can’t flip back or because she’s just generally being fussy. We have our nest cam connected to our Amazon Show so that we can easily say “Alexa show me the crib” and I can monitor her from the living room.

6) We also have our Alexa connected to our nest thermostat so we can easily call out “Alexa set the temperature to 74” or “Alexa turn off the AC.” It makes it super easy to change the temperatures without having to walk up to the thermostat.

We love our Amazon echo system so much we have two echo dots and one echo spot (so basically an Alexa in every room). This is not sponsored by Amazon and I’m just a huge fan of the convenience of Alexa. Google Home is another virtual assistant that works just as well. But don’t mix the two ecosystems and just stick to one for convenience.

Anyone else have a virtual assistant integrated into their home life? What do you use it for most?

What I Bought in August

Aaaaand we’re back on the buying train. A month “detox” on spending won’t do much except maybe give you some time to ruminate before purchasing. Oh, but waiting did do some good in that now some of the items I was eyeing went on sale!

What I Bought

That KOTN dress I had on my list last month went on sale! Yay for saving some money while trying out a brand I’ve been itching to try for awhile.

I bought the black Only Child Alta top in black raw silk as I had planned last month (the Olive version went on sale in early August, and I was tempted but the black would be more of a staple in my wardrobe). I sold both my Elizabeth Suzann silk Georgia tee (which was gorgeous but I just never reached for that rust color) and the ES Petra crop. So I have no regrets on splurging on the Alta (especially since I wear the white one so much).

Everlane: Recotton Henley, Collarless Air Shirt, Silky Cotton Lantern Shirt, and the short sleeve Crew Neck Bodysuit which I all sent back. I wasn’t in love with them and didn’t feel like making the effort to blog about it. Sorry y’all but blogging burnout.

Elizabeth Suzann silk Harlow dress from eBay: loooove this and have worn it out twice already. I have a feeling this will be a staple in closet.

Mansur Gavriel Mini Mini Lady bag: bought this used on the RealReal and used store credit. I saw this on a friend and loved it on her. So I thought I’d give it a try. I’ve been like a MG Lady bag goldilocks and have owned in the past the large size (no longer produced), the regular size (which is now the large size) and the mini. Maybe the mini mini is the one for me?

What I was gifted

Everlane Denim Chore Coat and the cropped chunky cardigan (aka the Baaba knock-off; and yes I succumbed to the temptation of it even though it is made with 23% nylon. More thoughts about that when I blog about it).

And sorry no links and photos with this post because blog burnout >.<