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Unsponsored Lovevery Play Kit Subscription Review {Updated April 2022}

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We have been lucky enough that a friend has let us borrow all their baby toys until their baby number 2 comes along. So up until now, we hadn’t bought anything for Emi. So that was my excuse when I decided to try out the Lovevery Play Kits. For $80 every 2 months (or basically $40 a month—the price of a gym membership), Emi gets a curation of thoughtful, well-designed, Montessori-based toys that stimulates her developing brain. It is as good as it seems or did I just fall for Instagram hype?

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My first impression of the toys were that they are simple but quality made. The wooden toys (made with sustainably sourced wood) are super chic and feel smooth and sleek. The cotton they use is organic and I know they’ve done their research so that all materials are safe for babies mouths. There are some plastic toys in the mix, like a crinkle bag and some plastic (feels like rubber) rings but they serve a purpose (for sound or for touch). There’s there’s not an excessive use of plastic in their selection of toys.

I also love that each box comes with a set of notecards that not only tell you how to use each toy and how they’re helping with your baby’s brain development, but they also tell you what to expect for those months and tips on how to interact with your baby outside of using their toys. And these notecards come with little pep talks and words of encouragement that are nice to read when you’re feeling especially tired (which is pretty much all the time lol).

Since I don’t plan on going to a toy store or buying Emi any toys during my free time, I love that these boxes are delivered to my door and all the guesswork is taken out. Also if you subscribe to their email or instagram, they have other play ideas using objects you can find around the house (like a muffin tin and balls or a balloon tied to her leg—which is her current favorite activity). So even if you don’t buy their products, they’re still a useful brand to follow.

So far Emi is still getting the hang of these toys since they’re still a bit advanced for her (okay so I lied on the page where they asked for Emi’s age-lol, I didn’t want the first box so I said her birth date was a month before her actual birthday). And it even says on the notecards to keep introducing the toys to her multiple times because at this age they won’t get it right away. But I try out different toys daily and it’s been fun to see her developing. The first time I showed her the ring, she couldn’t even grasp it with my help. Now she can reach out and grasp it, though she doesn’t hold onto it very long. Someday she’ll be able to grasp it, hold it and bring it to her mouth. Then she can feel the difference between the two rings included in the box (one is a hard rubber, the other is soft, stuffed, and made of cotton). But literally baby steps right?

So all in all, I do think these play kits are 100% worth it. Especially for the busy parent who wants high quality, educational type toys. It is slightly a pain that you have to subscribe for the whole set to get even one box to try. But just select the pay as you go option (so it’s a full $80 every two months instead of $72) and it’s really easy to stop your subscription at any time. I actually stopped it so that 1) I could see how easy (or hard) it was for the purposes of this review but also because 2) I wasn’t all that excited about the toys in the 5-6 month box. I plan to restart my subscription for the 7-8 month box (which also seems super easy—just a click of a button).

And for those who want to be frugal about the toys they buy their kids, I’ve seen a new Play Kit sell on ebay for $71 and a used one missing a piece for $41 (so you’re looking at a $20 per month price, but I’ll update this review with what I’m actually able to sell it for when I do eventually list it on eBay).

Anyway I’ll also update how Emi plays with these toys as she gets older and my overall impression in a couple of months (and also whether or not I decide to continue my subscription).

P.S. I loved their subscription box so much that I decided to go for their play gym mat as well. You can read my review of that here.

August 2019 update: She’s had this play kit for about 2 months now, and even though she could be ready for the next box, she still loves playing with all the toys in the 3-4 month box. When she first got the box, she only could really play with a couple of the toys and they didn’t hold her interest for very long. But now there are a couple toys that she just loves (like the bell in the wooden circular cage and the crinkly little bag) that she can play for 5-10 minutes at a time (which is long for a baby’s attention span). Anyway we’re not quite ready to sell this box just yet since she loves it so much. And it’s been such a joy to see her grow into these toys like she does her clothes. I have to say I’m 100% satisfied with this lovevery purchase and will definitely be getting another box when she’s ready!

November 2019 Update: She’s 8 and half months and still playing with toys in the 3-4 month box, though I did go ahead and purchase the 7-8 month box. I’ll probably be selling the 3-4 month box soon, so this box had the lifespan of about 6 months (since I got it when she was 2 months old). I definitely don’t think you need to get the whole subscription but these boxed sets work even if you only pick and choose certain stages. I am definitely going to be purchasing another play kit, probably the more expensive toddler phase ones that is supposed to last 3 months.

December 2019 Update: I finally sold the 3-4 month play kit on ebay for $50+$10 shipping, which sounds like a good deal but be forewarned shipping cost $20 through USPS—though it depends how far you have to ship it. I sold it to someone in Illinois so that’s basically over halfway across the country. Anyway I sold it within 2 days with really crappy photos, which tells me I probably could have asked more for it if I had taken better pictures. So I think if you’re willing to do the selling, this play kit will set you back about $30-$40 for 6-7 months of use. That’s not too bad in my opinion!

June 2020: I purchased the first toddler play kit ($120 for toys spanning 3 months) and again I love the quality and Emi loves playing with them. I should note that since writing this original post, Lovevery lets you skip boxes so you don’t have to subscribe/unsubscribe. They will send you an email letting you know when the next box ships and you can opt out of it through the “Manage my subscriptions” tab. I should also note that if you get the 7-8 months play kit like I did, make sure you don’t leave the Ball Drop Box on the ground by the time your kid is of walking age. Emi fell and hit her head on the corner of the box (placed on a wooden floor) and we had to do an injury clinic visit in the middle of the coronavirus pandemic (it was awful but luckily she was alright). In general, now that Emi is walking, I leave the wooden box toys (there’s two in the 13-15 month set) on the carpeted section of the house just in case. But in general after having purchased several play kits over Emi’s first year of life, I would say that Lovevery is definitely worth it.

May 2021: Yep, we’re still getting these Play Kits ($120 for 3 months when they’re over 1) and I have to say they’re even better now than they were before. Lovevery is continuing to improve their boxes with better toys, and now that Emi is 2 two, she’s been enjoying the toys more than when she was an infant. We are still skipping boxes (currently we’re still playing with the 22-24 month one and she’s 26 months). But even the earlier boxes are still challenging her so I don’t feel the need to get new toys every 3 months. Every 6 months, for us, is a great schedule. Anyway just wanted to add this update because if you were to ask me if Lovevery is worth it even now, I would say 100%!

April 2022: Emi’s 3 now and we’re still getting these play kits. I still love these quality educational toys that are mostly wood. I think as they get older, the toys are even more worth it since they really have put some thought in them. I’ve also noticed that they keep editing the boxes so that the next iterations of the play kits are evne better than the first (ngl I was a bit jealous of my friend’s kids’ (who are younger) playkits because they’re better than the ones Emi had lol).

Weekend Update/Ramblings

This is going to be more of a rambling post so feel free to skip, but I was thinking the other day of what life would be like if I suddenly went blind. My first thought was I would be sad to not see my baby’s face as she grew older. My second thought was I’d probably continue this blog, lol but probably with no photos and via dictation. I also thought I would probably not buy any new clothing because I wouldn’t be able to picture in my head how the outfit would look. I would continue to wear the same stuff because I’ll at least know which combos look good. I’d also probably sell off all my jewelry because if I can’t look at it, what’s the point. Oh, and I would like to be able to swim as a form of exercise. Then I felt immensely grateful for my vision. How much easier is life when you can see! Do you sometimes have these kinds of thoughts or is it just me?

I’m also thinking of doing another No Buy July (like I did last year). I don’t really believe in shopping bans, since my failed attempt at a shopping ban in 2017 (after which all my old shopping habits resumed to a degree). But a shopping detox- a type of cleanse if you will- is probably refreshing. Plus I like that it rhymes so I’m going to try make it a yearly thing haha.

On a more serious note, last week was my husband’s first father’s day and my first father’s day without my dad. It was bittersweet to say the least. I really wish my dad could have met Emi, especially since he really wanted a grandchild. But I guess that’s how life goes sometimes.

Unsponsored Pyne & Smith Linen Dress Review

Pyne & Smith have been on my radar a long time since they’re an ethical fashion blogger favorite. If you’ve been reading ethical style blogs for a bit, I’m sure you’ve come across them already. But I took my time getting to them since A) I already purchased way too many linen items last year (mosty Elizabeth Suzann and Only Child) and B) Their cute linen dresses weren’t really my style. But when Salina had a promo code that gave me a 10% discount and she donated her commission to charity, I decided it was the best time to give them a try. And as much as I wanted to get some linen overalls, the $248 price was a bit out of the range I was looking to spend. So a happy medium was this long sleeved no.12 dress in black linen for $165 that could be dressed up or down.

Pyne & Smith Review

{Wearing: Pyne & Smith no.12 dress, Martiniano Glove Shoes (reviewed here), Acne Studios Musubi Bag (reviewed here)}

First a little background on the company if you’re not familiar: they make all their linen clothing in Southern California from European flax (grown in Belgium and France, and milled in Lithuania). Joanna is the founder and designer behind the brand, and she even answers all the emails sent to the company! You can read more about her and the brand here.

Now about the dress. I ordered it in the medium size after taking a look at the measurements here. I would normally be a size small but I decided to be a bit more cautious and order a size up post-pregnancy. I started ordering a size bigger than my normal because I’ve come to grips that I’m not the same size that I was and that’s ok! And if I ever shrink back to my pre-baby weight, then this dress can easily accommodate that since there’s a tie at the back so I can cinch it smaller. And even in the medium, I find that the 42” length (only 0.5” longer than the small) is perfect for my 5’4” height. It’s not quite midi, but it hits below the knees (a true midi length would look quite dowdy I think). I also love the length of the sleeves, since it hits at a really flattering area of the arm. I also ordered this dress since I can unbutton it easily from the front to breastfeed (it’s a tad tight when trying to take off one arm while leaving the other side on but it’s definitely doable).

As for the linen quality, it’s superb! The actual weight of the linen is 200gsm which makes it slightly thicker than weight of the other Lithuanian slow fashion brands like LinenFox and NotPerfectLinen, but less thick than the linen used by Elizabeth Suzann and Only Child. You can see how they all compare in this ethical linen review post here, which I updated with the addition of Pyne & Smith. They don’t have the thickest linen but sometimes you want more of a midweight than a heavyweight linen (especially if it’s hot).

As much as I love the dress though, I was a bit disappointed when trying to unbutton the buttons to breastfeed I found that several of the buttonholes weren’t properly sewed. So the buttons would snag, which is especially aggravating when trying to quickly breastfeed a wailing baby. For an investment piece like this I would expect it to me impeccably made. But who knows, it might just be a one off with the specific maker of my dress. And overall I really do love the style, the ease of the dress, and the quality of the linen.

Why You Should Switch To Using A Safety Razor

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It took me a long time to come around to using a safety razor even though I’ve been on a zero waste journey for so long (a path that has switchbacks because hey, this journey is sometimes steep and difficult lol). Anyway I finally did some research and purchased this safety razor 6 months ago (while I was still pregnant) when I used up my last plastic razor refill. But then didn’t get around to using it because A) I was pregnant and couldn’t reach my legs anymore, B) It was wintertime, C) I was intimidated in using something that looked so surgical and at the same time D) Too lazy to learn how to put in the blade and use it. But finally I started using it because I was no longer pregnant and it’s summertime so I needed to start shaving these legs.

And tbh, I don’t know what took me so long! A safety razor is not scary at all, lol. It’s super easy to use, it’s great for my skin, and it’s really great for the environment. It’s a shame I used so many plastic razors for so long (even if they were made from recycled plastic like this one). Seriously, this plastic-free shaving option is so easy, it should actually be the first step in going zero waste (along with bringing your own bags to the grocery store).

The benefit of a safety razor isn’t just that’s it’s plastic free and good for the environment. There’s benefits for the user as well. If you have sensitive skin like I do, a safety razor is great because the single blade means that you’re not irritating your skin with multiple blades going over your skin at the same time. Yes, with a safety razor, which only has a single blade, you won’t have as clean of a shave all the time. But really it only takes one extra swipe over some areas to get the same result (you really don’t need 5 blades to get a good shave).

And you definitely do not need to go get a fancy shmacy razor like this one (even though that rose gold is oh so pretty). The one I got from Amazon (that looks like the photo above) is $29 and has a 4.5 star rating with over 1000 reviews. I did my research and this is one of the best. And even though the initial cost of a safety razor is more than a plastic one, the blade refills are pretty dirt cheap. On amazon you can get 30 blades for $20 (and that’s on the high end). Compare that to the 5 for $10 I was paying with the Preserve razor. Or for my next blade refill I’m going to try out Albatross, which is a local-to-me brand. Their blades go for 30 for $4.50! And I love that Albatross has a blade take back program to recycle the blades so you really are producing zero waste for shaving.

Now on how to use a safety razor. First putting in the blade is super easy (just be smart and be careful). Even though I don’t advocate spending $75 for a safety razor, the Oui razor site has a good intro on how to insert the blade here. Rather than holding the razor from the side to screw and unscrew, I hold the stem of the razor and twist the handle. And to shave with it, I watched this video. They have some good tips: hold the razor at a 30 degree angle and let the weight of the razor do the work (no need to add any pressure). I like to shave with the grain of the hair so I have the handle going down the leg, but if you shave against the grain you’ll have the handle side going up towards the body. And instead of buying shaving cream, I just use my Plaine Product Conditioner (yep I still use these zero waste bath products!).

So if you’re not yet using a safety razor, but are on the path of zero-waste this needs to be the next change in your lifestyle. It’s easy, painless and cheaper in the long run! And I promise you won’t regret it. Anyone else make the change to a safety razor and what did you think?

Weekend Update/Ramblings

I was surprised a by the tiny bit of negativity on my Everlane Day Crossover Sandal review by people who are judging the sandals without trying them. And it makes me wonder if it’s because I’ve been only doing positive reviews of Everlane items or if its because I’m back on the gifted items train. I have tried items from Everlane that I didn’t like, like the wedge sandals and their Tread sneakers, but I haven’t bothered writing reviews of them. It might sound selfish but I don’t want to waste time writing negative reviews of things I don’t like. I guess now with the baby and being currently jobless I’ve been skewing towards positive reviews that have the potential for some kind of reward (I’m human after all). But now that I’m more aware of it, I’ll try to take the time to review everything that comes my way: the good, the bad, and the ugly. This also makes me want to get a job soon so that I don’t feel like this blog has to make some kind of income for us to survive in the SF Bay Area (it’s tough out here on a single income). Anyway since Everlane hasn’t asked if I wanted anything for free in June (though there’s quite a few things I would have loved to try), I’ve fallen back on saving and using credits earned through my referral link (I know this is getting repetitive, but I’m always super grateful for those who purchased through my link because it allows me to try things for reviews, so thank you!). So I’ve ordered a couple of their summer dresses and their easy shorts (because I’m still 100% in love with my easy chinos, which look better now that they’re more worn in).

And as much I have a ton of favorite stuff from Everlane and I’m pretty much an Everlane addict, it is a bit disheartening to see so much go on their CWYP (choose what you pay) sale. Can a company still be called ethical and working towards sustainability when they overproduce so much? Or is that just the price of being a viable clothing company so that they can sometimes make items that are home-runs?

In other news I’ve been slowly rewatching Big Little Lies season 1 to get ready for season 2 (which already started). And I have to say, I’ve gained a new appreciation for the show now that I’m a mother myself. The trials of these women who try to be good mothers and yet still deal with their own issues as a person have new meaning to me. Also knowing how it ends, the beginning makes more sense to me now too lol. If you haven’t gotten on the BLL bandwagon yet, DO IT! (Though be warned there’s issues of rape and domestic violence so it’s not for everyone).

Oh and speaking of HBO shows, Gentleman Jack just finished and I looooved it. I think this is the first lesbian love story where I felt it was super romantic instead of being just gratuitous female on female sex scenes. I also love me a really good period piece so there’s that. After the show finished, I of course googled Anne Lister (aka Gentleman Jack) and found this interesting site, which shows her coded diary. But it also revealed that she wasn’t always the spurned lover, but in fact she rejected several women in search of the one to settle down with who had wealth and standing. It also reveals that according to her diaries, Anne Lister’s relationship with Ann Walker was not really a happy one—sad! Of course fiction is better than real life.

And finally this article is a good reminder to myself (especially since I’ve bought quite a few toys for Emi this month—though not cheap plastic ones).

Essentials for the Fourth Trimester and also What We Wasted Our Money On {August 2019 Update}

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The Essentials

  • Car seat (duh) and a stroller: Since we were lucky enough to be given a used stroller by some good friends we bought the same car seat they used (since they already had the converter bracket for that car seat). Also this car seat was the one all our friends used as well as the one I saw the most often at the lactation consultants so it must be good, right?

  • A Bassinet or a Pack n Play with bassinet: We purchased this Pack n’ Play with the sleeper addition, which we used for her first month. There are warnings not to let your baby sleep overnight in the sleeper, but we liked that the sleeper had an option to very slightly incline her to reduce reflux. But we took that risk since we had her swaddled and she couldn’t flip or turn her head yet and she was sleeping right next to me (and actually not sleeping for very long at a time at that). For a completely safe option use the bassinet set-up of the Pack n Play or the Snoo. And a note about the Snoo: according to my friend who used it with her second kid (but not the first), it’s absolutely worth it because you don’t have to stay up to rock your kid back to sleep. The Snoo does it for you! You can rent one like she did here.

  • Diaper changing pad with clip in straps: No need to buy a whole diaper changing table, but a diaper changing pad like this one is helpful. We secured it to an old Ikea expedit shelf we’ve had for almost 10 years and voila, a diaper changing station. Our pack n play also came with a diaper changing station that my mom now uses when babysitting. That is also a handy option but can only last until the baby is 15 pounds or starts rolling over. Oh and no need to get a fancy diaper cover, we just cover it with puppy pee pads since she takes a big dump (aka poop-splosions) once in awhile and they’ll get on the changing pad. This way it’s one less thing to wash.

  • Water Wipes: Our baby has pretty sensitive skin (like most babies) and suffered from baby acne and still stuffers from various rashes every once in awhile. But she’s had zero diaper rash and I think it’s due to these wipes. We were turned on to these wipes at the hospital and they’re the best for newborn butts.

  • A baby carrier/wrap: I use the k'tan wrap but my friends love the solly.  My husband uses an ergobaby360 (with the cool air mesh which is key for those hot months) since it also distributes the weight to the waist instead of just the shoulders/back.

  • Dr. Brown baby bottles: I had planned to breastfeed but turns out I have very low supply so I needed to supplement with formula.  Having a couple of the newborn size bottles on hand with some formula (ready-to-feed instead of powder is better for newborns) took the pressure off when my milk didn't come in.  Also by registering at BuyBuyBaby and/or Amazon (I think it might be BuyBuyBaby but I'm not 100% sure), one of them sends your address to the formula companies and they send you samples as well as coupons of $5-$15 off (which saved me a lot of money).

  • A breast pump to increase supply: I didn't know I was going to get a free rental pump from Kaiser (the Medela Symphony, which I looove) so I went and bought the one my friends all recommended (the spectra s1—the s1 (the blue one) has a portable battery while the s2 (the pink one) needs to be plugged into the wall).  Your health insurance should also provide you with a free breast pump but usually the quality of that one is not great. I also bought the Willow Pump because I was wanted something even more portable and discreet. There are definitely pros and cons with all of them which I’ll detail in a breast pump review I’m working on.

  • A swaddle: It's hard to tell which one your baby will like.  We tried several (swaddleme, sleepea, and the halo sleepsack swaddle) and she only liked the halo sleepsack swaddle.  But a swaddle really helps her sleep, since without it she'll wake herself up by hitting herself with her arms. Also we purchased the muslin sleepsacks since these swaddles keep the baby pretty toasty. If you live in a warm climate, make sure the swaddle is lightweight.

  • Pacifier: We bought several different kinds along with this accessory to keep the pacifier weighted down (and thus less likely to pop out of her mouth). The one that worked best was this one, though when at home I let her suck on a clean pinky (that worked best of all). Also don’t get this pacifier because water and other liquids can get trapped inside the nipple and it looks really unsanitary. Oh and nipple confusion is just a myth according to Cribsheets by Emily Oster (seriously such a good book with advice based on evaluating the quality of the research out there. This book itself should be on this essentials list). We gave her the bottle and pacifier early on and our baby doesn’t have nipple confusion (she can both latch well and take the bottle well).

  • Some kind of sound machine: We bought this one for on the go (I was influenced by the instagram takingcarababies—she’s all about teaching kids how to sleep better) but have found the best solution to be “rain sounds” on the Amazon echo. Some kind of noise machine will usually help the baby sleep better.

  • Baby nail file: because their fingernails come out long and grow fast, and they’ll scratch themselves and you. Bring this one to the hospital with you if you want to prevent scratches (though even if they scratch themselves, their skin heals so fast!). This nail file is super gentle and doesn’t hurt the baby at all.

  • A receiving blanket/swaddle: I would just get one set and make sure it’s big enough for when your baby is larger than a newborn (we bought the newborn size and she grew out of that quick). These kinds of blankets are good for swaddling (if you rather not splurge on a easy to use swaddle like the ones above) and as a burp cloth in a pinch. Also for every doctor’s visit since they want the baby undressed (and sometime you don’t know how long you have to wait with a naked baby) so these make for a good cover-up. And you can use these to cover the car seat (instead of buying a dedicated carseat cover). You could probably also use these for a breastfeeding cover since they’re so large (just fold them in half and drape).

  • The NoseFrida: Our baby got a stuffy nose pretty early on so we’re happy we had this on hand. A safe and sterile way to clear your baby’s nasal passages.

  • A digital rectal/oral thermometer: Also good to have on hand so you can check if your baby’s sick.

  • The Boppy: This breastfeeding pillow really worked for me though it doesn’t work for everyone. It’s great for those long feeds when your arm gets tired from holding your baby up. I also used it early on like a dock-a-tot (a note on this below) where I would put her down right after a feed (it’s great because this also keeps her upright to help with any reflux issues). But I would make sure to always watch her when I would sit her up in the boppy this way (because I wanted to make sure her head didn’t tilt forward and close off her airway). I got mine at Burlington for $18 so that also made it very worth it!

The Non-Essentials

  • An expensive glider/rocking chair: We got this one since several friends recommended getting a high quality one that could later be used as a “story time chair.” But the baby’s room is small to begin with and this chair takes up a lot of space. I use it to rock her to sleep but she just cries everytime my husband tries to use it. I rather have invested in renting the Snoo to get her to sleep and just purchased or repurposed another chair to feed her in. Also an exercise ball like this one is great to bounce on while carrying your child to “rock” them to sleep.

  • Lactation cookies, teas, supplements: I tried fenugreek, lactation cookies, and this lactation tea along with the supplements from Legendairy. Nothing was the silver bullet that miraculously led to higher milk production. It just took time and consistent pumping (and power pumping). I’m still not where I need to be with milk production but I’m not sweating it anymore. Though I will say I think the sunflower lecithin from Legendairy works well. It’s meant to prevent milk duct clogs and I haven’t had one yet! I originally purchased it to help increase the fattier hindmilk release since I was making more of the foremilk, which I think was making the baby fussier. And the nice side effect is that I haven’t had to deal with any clogs.

  • Baby bottle sterilizer: We bought this one and used it only once since it was so complicated. Just boil some water and sterilize it that way. And then put it in the dishwasher every time after that.

  • Infant Car Cover Seat: I never needed one. And if I really wanted to cover her carseat, I would just use a receiving blanket. Then again we don’t take her out in the carseat all that often (we use the bassinet version of the stroller more).

  • Dock-a-tot: I originally purchase one thinking I would need it but when I didn’t use it for the first month I returned it (and saved myself $175). Babies shouldn’t sleep in the dock-a-tot unattended and if you really do want a place to put your baby down on the bed while you’re watching, one of these cheaper Amazon ones should do the trick. If anything it’s a nice to have but not a need to have.

  • A fancy video baby monitor: We bought the Nest camera for this purpose but I have yet to use it in any essential manner. I have looked at it time to time but only for fun. Maybe this will become more essential as she gets older but for me it’s been pretty useless. We also have a cheap sound baby monitor that we use to hear her cries from the other room. This is way more useful but in the beginning you don’t need it if she’s sleeping right next to you or if you have a small house. {August 2019 Update: Ok now that she can roll over and we are doing sleep training this is essential. I would not recommend then Nest camera though because now you can no longer disable the green recording light so when you’re spying on her, the green light will flash. And it has woken up our baby. We currently are making do and covering up the light with some tape, but if I were doing my registry over again I might have chosen something like the Nanit.}

And also just a note on getting discounts on things you’ll buy for your baby: if you register at Amazon, everything on that registry that remains unpurchased up to 6 months after your baby's due date is 15% off and the same goes for BuyBuyBaby, except they have 20% off all remaining items (but their prices are generally higher than Amazon's to begin with).  So I registered for high ticket items like a crib, crib mattress, and high chair even though I wouldn’t need those right away.  Actually I just threw stuff on there even after the baby was born since the 15% off can add up.  But you can only purchase things off of your amazon list in 2 (big) orders to get 15% off ( BuyBuyBaby is a one time 20% off).

So other mama’s out there, what were some of your fourth trimester essentials?

P.S. Here’s one of my favorite mommy blogger’s list if you want another opinion on what’s “essential” :)

Everlane Review: The Day Crossover Sandal

I’m a pretty big fan of Everlane’s Day line, from the Day Market bag (my most used bag) to the Day Heel Mule (my favorite heel). So when I saw the Day Crossover Sandal, I knew I had to give it a try*. And it did not disappoint! This might be my next favorite sandal from Everlane (and believe me, I tried quite a few from them—almost one a year). My first favorite sandal being the long gone Street Sandal from their early years.

Everlane Review The Day Crossover Sandal
 

First a note on sizing, I got my usual Everlane size 8 and it worked perfectly. For those of you guys who have trouble with Everlane sizing, it’s all about paying attention to the factory where the shoes are made. Since each factory will have slightly different lasts (the foot mold that the shoes are made with), the sizing varies by production factory. For example, I know my “usual Everlane size 8” works best with the Montopoli in Val D’Arno factory in Italy (they made the Day Heel and Day Heel Mule) since they’re lasts are a tad wider in the front of the foot. But the lasts from their other Italian shoe factory, Santa Maria A Monte (they make the Day Glove and all the Slingbacks) are a tad longer and narrow and doesn’t usually work in my usual Everlane size 8. It’s a bit of a pain to do the extra research before purchasing, but I think that’s what happens when the brand is on the small side and has various production factories. But on the plus side, at least Everlane is transparent enough that you can do this extra bit of research and be a slightly better informed customer.

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Anyway back to the sandal. The Day Crossover Sandal is an absolute dream of a leather sandal. The crossover leather is super soft and molds to your feet, so it’s perfect for slightly wide feet like mine. There’s no chafing of any kind because of the double folded leather. The sole is made of that rubbery material they like to use (the same one that’s on the Day Glove) so it’s non-slip (however unfortunately not super eco-friendly). Also the sole is not too heavy and for me it doesn’t make that slipper slapping sounds (though I’m more of a heel dragger myself). This really is the perfect chic summer sandal and feels way more expensive than $88.

But I do have to add that there is zero cushioning on the sole, so if you can’t handle a hard surface (due to flat feet or plantar fasciitis) then this shoe is not for you.

I haven’t walked miles and miles in them so I can’t attest to how they will wear (I do have one concern that the soft leather might stretch out and I’ll update this review with that bit of info if they do). But I can see this being my nice sandal for the summer for backyard BBQs and casual dinners out. It’s certainly an upgrade from my Everlane street sandals, which have definitely seen better days.

Anyone else try the Day Crossover Sandal and what did you think?

*This item was gifted by Everlane though all opinions are my own.

P.S. Everlane is having their big summer sale right now (what they call Choose What You Pay) though the only thing that I love that’s on there currently are their Boss Mules. I love my black pair (reviewed here) and I wish they still had the bone patent leather ones still in my size (dang it, I knew I should have purchased the bone patent ones when they first came out). Everything else is just eh or very out of season.

P.P.S Just read Andrea’s newest post here and glad to see she loves her Day Crossover Sandals as well :)

Weekend Update/Ramblings

via; feeling kind of uninspired clothing wise so went on Pinterest and found this lovely outfit from 2013!

via; feeling kind of uninspired clothing wise so went on Pinterest and found this lovely outfit from 2013!

What’s that saying again? “The days are long and the months are longer?” Lol, just kidding I know these are the days to cherish since today will be the smallest she’ll ever be from here on out. And she’s three months now! She’s been sleeping through the nights (11pm-7am) so that’s been amazing, though she doesn’t nap very well. So the days have been quite tiring. I don’t know how I’m going to cope once my mom leaves to go back to Hawaii (in a couple weeks). Be prepared for complete radio silence on the blog after June >.<

Anyway for those with no interest in babies, I apologize for the blog being so baby-topic-heavy. I’ve been wondering if I should spin up a different blog to talk about all the baby experiences and reviews, or just keep it on this blog. I mean I kind of write on a hodgepodge of topics anyway and I never promised this would be a style/ethical fashion only blog. It just kind of ended up that way lol. But still, I can see the baby-topics kind of taking over this blog since that’s my world right now.

Well in something not baby related, I loved this post from Renee (aka GoblinShark) about what happens when a minimalist can no longer fit into some of their clothes. The conundrum is do you either A) Lose the weight (despite trying to accept your body as is—ie have a body positive mindset) or B) Buy new clothes (despite trying to be a minimalist). It’s like a battle of your principles. It especially speaks to me since my body is definitely bigger post pregnancy and isn’t shrinking in a hurry. I’ve broken down and went with option B and bought a couple of items (like the Only Child Cove Pants) because I don’t want to keep feeling like I don’t fit into my clothes. And I’ve also sold some clothes (like my Elizabeth Suzann Clyde skirt) that are too small to keep the number of wardrobe items manageable. I’m not expecting myself to bounce back and I’m letting myself enjoy some new things.

Tips On How To Wear Your Secondhand Clothes More Often {Updated January 2021}

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The other day, I noticed a couple instagram stories where people were taking a screenshot and labeling in which posts they were wearing a secondhand/thrifted/used item. So I decided to give it a try and see many times I posted wearing something used. To my surprise I wore or featured a secondhand item in almost every post. I really wasn’t expecting that. But this made me think as to why I’m able to incorporate so many of my secondhand items into my daily wardrobe and the following were some of my conclusions (hint: a lot of it starts with buying the right used clothing):

1) Only buy used items that’s on your “wants list”

So there are two ways I usually shop for secondhand items: 1) Go to a Crossroads, browse items, try them on, and then take some home or 2) Have something specific in mind (usually something I see on Instagram) and then stalk either TheRealReal, eBay, or the selltradees account for that specific item. In the above grid there’s only one post (the most bottom left pic) where I’m wearing a used item procured through method 1. All the other secondhand items I’m wearing in the rest of the posts were purchased using method 2. So clearly for me that’s what works best. As much as I enjoy going thrift shopping, I find that I wear items more if I clearly want them first (and put them on a “want list”) and then buy them after months of waiting. This probably applies for any new addition to your closet, not just the secondhand items.

2) Buy high ticket items secondhand

The used items that I wear most often are the expensive stuff like leather bags (like the Acne Studios Musubi bag reviewed here or the Celine soft cub bag reviewed here) and shoes (like the Martiniano Glove shoes reviewed here). First off, luxury/expensive items tend to wear better with time so even if you buy them “preowned” they don’t feel worn out. In fact I like to get my luxury items used because 1) they’re a much better value since they’re usually considerably cheaper and 2) I don’t baby my stuff yet I don’t want to be the first one to put a scratch on the leather so if it comes a little scuffed up already then I don’t have to sweat it. Just buy them from a reputable source (my favorite is of course Fashionphile—which I talk about here). {Update: I also have tips on how to purchase secondhand luxury items here.}

3) Buy high-quality classic or base pieces

My most used secondhand items, after bags and shoes, are classic pieces of clothing. So that would be my Elizabeth Suzann Georgia Dress (reviewed here) and my ES Mara Jumpsuit (reviewed here). These items can be worn on their own or layered during the winter to change up the look. And because they’re such classics, I don’t get bored with them.

4) Do a 10x10 Challenge with them

So if you’re not familiar with the 10x10, it’s an Instagram challenge to wear 10 items of clothing in 10 different outfits over 10 days. I love using my secondhand items in these 10x10 challenges because they really push you to come up with different outfit variations (like layering 2 pieces you never thought of combining—and yes sometimes it can get weird). But sometimes you end up with a combo that you really like and now you have some easy go-to combos with your secondhand item. And that makes it just that much easier for you to incorporate your used item into your daily wardrobe.

5) Repeat often

When you do #4 above, you’ll find your go-to, no brainer outfits and those are best for days when you’re on auto-pilot and the last thing you want to mull over is your wardrobe. So then you end up repeating your feel-good, high quality (tip #2) classic base pieces (tip #3) most often. In the above grid I’m repeating my ES Georgia Dress twice, my ES Mara jumpsuit twice, and Martiniano Glove shoes twice. And to keep track of how much you wear your secondhand clothes, use a closet tracker like the Stylebook App.

What about you guys? What are some of your secrets in getting more wear out of your used items?

Weekend Ramblings: My birth story

*I’ve always wondered why it’s not called my birthing story. “My birth story” sounds like you are talking about when you were born, not about giving birth. Anyway I know there’s a lot of birth stories already out there but here’s another one if you’re interested.

I remember back in my 20’s when my friends first started having kids I would read with horror their birth stories. Like that cliched train wreck, I couldn’t look away. I wanted to know but then didn’t want to know. When I got to my early 30’s and started contemplated having kids, I read even more birth stories so I could prepare myself. Then I read so many I got bored with them. Well I’m not sure how many people like to read this stuff, but I figured I would share my experience (while it’s still somewhat fresh in my mind but at the same time far enough away that I don’t exaggerate the pain and misery—lol just kidding, sorta).

Well since I have two large fibroids (at its peak one was the size of a mini watermelon, the other a grapefruit) blocking the birth canal, I was told I have to have a c-section from day one. All the doctors and technicians delivered this “bad” news as if they were really sorry that I couldn’t give birth naturally. But I was secretly thrilled since I didn’t have to worry about the unexpected water breaking, the hours of contraction pain, and the possibility of having my perineal tear (the horror!). Of course there’s pros and cons to everything.

Since I had several major bleeds throughout my pregnancy, I was already a pro at the hospital stays and had fine-tuned my hospital bag (though of course I still overpacked on D-day, the due date). I also had some procedures done ahead of time, like certain blood draws and this particular awful procedure where you bend over for a nurse and they run a stick between your vagina and anus (the indignity! lol) testing for strep B.

As for the actual C-section, there’s nothing like being fully conscious while your lower half is filleted like a fish. Oh and all the IVs they put in the pre-op room is no walk in the park either (one of the most painful experiences, though my anesthesiologist was the best—I can’t imagine what it would have been like with a crappy one). Walking in a room full of doctors and nurses scrubbed for surgery, walking past the table of surgical tools, getting the epidural with all the bright lights shining in my face made me want to cry from panic. I had to focus on my breathing and keep telling myself everything would be alright to prevent me from hyperventilating. If you’re getting a planned c-section (or even if you’re not) brush up on your mindful meditation skills because it really comes in handy!

Once the epidural kicked in, there was no actual pain. But I could smell my flesh burning (from the cauterization to minimize bleeding) and could feel them tugging at my lower body because it shook my whole upper half. When they were ready for the baby to come out, they did have to push on my sternum pretty hard and that was painful. Once the baby was out though, everything was just a blur. They take the baby, check her out, clean her up and then placed her on my shoulder to distract me from the rest of the surgery (which worked!).

The hardest part about a C-section is the recovery. The first day I couldn’t even get out of bed, though I made the effort to sit up and put my feet on the ground (even that was so painful). Good thing I had a urinary catheter so I didn’t have to get up to go to the bathroom (I never had one before so I didn’t know how it worked, but basically you never feel like you have to urinate since the bladder is constantly being emptied by the catheter). But by the next day they want you to walk, so they can at least take out the catheter to prevent infections (but taking the catheter out was pretty traumatic and made urinating difficult and painful). I wanted to get out of the hospital asap so I pushed myself to walk despite the pain and by day 2 I could walk around the floor (enough so they would discharge me).

Once I got home I walked around the house but didn’t actually walk outside for at least a week. Oh, and that first night, the pain was so bad I couldn’t even lie down (and this was despite all the pain medications I was taking around the clock). I had to sleep upright for the first couple days actually. The pain was still pretty bad at 2 weeks, though it wasn’t constant. The worst pain was getting up from bed, and that lingered even after all other pain was gone. 8 weeks postpartum and I have no pain but I can feel the tightness in my abs and there’s still bruising and numbness of the skin around my belly. But I’m beginning to work out again and I feel more like myself because of that. Anyway it was scary, the recovery was tough, but in the end I didn’t really have a choice (the baby’s gotta come out one way or another). It was worth it (of course) and I’m stronger for it (I was getting a filling at the dentist just the other week and I felt it was a breeze when before I used to be such a wuss about it lol). Guess we are all tougher than we think we are.

What I Wanted and Bought in May

So it looks like I’m back in the buying saddle again. That no buying period was pretty short—just April, lol. And now due to a general lack of impulse control (because of a pervading daily tiredness thanks to the baby), I haven’t been able to put things on my want list without purchasing them. What mama wants, mama gets. So instead of presenting this post as a list of things I wanted and then the one (or two, or three…) thing(s) I bought, as I did in the past, this is a list of what I wanted and bought.

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Storq Caftan

I purchased this during their Mother’s Day Sale and reviewed it here. Unfortunately I don’t have the time/energy/mindspace to make “Mormon Compound Chic” (as one reader put it, haha) better (though I did try to do the easy stuff like unbutton the collar and roll up the sleeves—still a no go). So I ended up selling it on eBay, and I’m not counting this item towards my closet tally.

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Pyne and Smith no. 12 dress

I was influenced by Salina when I purchased this dress. Not only was I able to get a 10% discount but she donated her commission to charity (how awesome is that) so it was a better time than any to try out this brand that I’d been eyeing for a year or so. I’ve only worn it out once, and I’m still trying to solidify my opinion of this dress. But the review will be out soon. Oh and I tried to offset this purchase by selling my Elizabeth Suzann linen clyde billow skirt via the selltradees instagram account. So technically one in and one out is net zero, right?

Martiniano Glove Shoe Review

Martiniano Glove Shoes

When I found a pair of these glove shoes (similar here) in a size 38 in a gorgeous stone taupe color on the RealReal I pounced without a second thought. I love my black pair (also purchased from theRealReal) but they’re a size too big (though I make them work with the addition of these heel thingies). But really what’s better than a pair of glove shoes in my size in this dreamy color? I also justified this purchase by selling the Martiniano Glove Heels I purchased back in March (selling them through the RealReal). I hardly ever wore heels before the baby and I’m not really about to start now.

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Everlane Day Crossover Slides

I received this item as a gift and I’ll be reviewing it soon. But I looooove them!

Everlane Linen Pants

I purchased this on referral credit (so thanks to everyone who has purchased through my link in the past) back in March I think. But since I didn’t include them in that month’s list, I’m adding it here. I recently wore them with Everlane’s linen picnic top and loved my version of their linen jumpsuit look. I’ll do a full review of these too though there’s not many sizes left on the Everlane site.

A bunch of clothes from The RealReal

I purchased a bunch of clothes and though I liked some of them I wasn’t in love. So I decided to return them all since I already did get a lot of things in May.

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A Pink Sapphire Ring from Etsy

So even though I didn’t buy this for myself, this was my first mother’s day present from the hubby (picked out by me of course lol). I try not to acquire new jewelry as much these days (though I had a huge jewelry phase a couple years ago). But for my first mother’s day it was nice to get something special.

So that brings my tally to one dress in (one skirt out), two pairs of shoes in (and one pair of shoes out), and one pants in. This one addition per month resolutions is pretty much blown but I’m going to try to keep at least a one-in-one-out policy. What about you guys? Have you been good about your resolutions?

Everlane Review: The Linen Picnic Top

* This item was gifted to me by Everlane but all opinions here are my own.

I received this top from Everlane about a month ago but due to the weather (it’s been rainy and a bit cold) and a newborn sucking all my time/energy, I haven’t really had a chance to take it out for a spin. But I finally wore it a couple times this week so here’s the review! But I should also mention that I ordered this in my usual Everlane size of 4, but due to changes in my body (specifically my boobs) this top feels a smidge too small across the chest. So I can only guess that the sizing is TTS since my sizing has changed, but I can’t say for sure. Note: a size 4 has 35in chest circumference, while a size 6 is 36in.

So as much as I love Everlane, I hafta say that I haven’t been super excited about their new releases lately. None of it seems to fit my lifestyle maybe, or I might be getting over Everlane in general (*gasp* that seems like heresy coming from an Everlane addict like myself). But the one thing that caught my eye in April was this Linen Picnic Top. I wouldn’t necessarily go on a picnic in it, but I see how they came up with the name (it’s cute!).

It originally caught my eye because I thought I might be able to nurse in it (buttons in the front=breastfeeding friendly). But the buttons are hard to unbutton so they’re really there for the looks only. The straps are not adjustable (unlike their linen jumpsuit) so you’re kind of stuck with their standard lengths. But the straps are wide enough to hide bra straps so you can wear a regular bra with this top. For the size 4, I find that the straps are the perfect length (though like I said above, the top is a bit tight right around the chest area). This top probably works best for those with smaller chests in general.

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{Wearing: Everlane linen picnic top, Everlane Easy Chinos (reviewed here), Martiniano Glove Shoes (reviewed here), Balenciaga Work bag (similar here)}

As for the linen quality, it’s good for the price: not too rough and not too thin. I would say it’s just a smidge below midweight linen. You can see how Everlane linen stacks up against the linen from other brands. Also don’t be fooled by how smooth Everlane’s linen is when you first get it (it’s extra smooth). Once you wash it a couple times it will roughen up a bit, but not overly so. But I would say for the price you’re paying, Everlane’s linen is a good value (unless you’re willing to wait over a month for something custom from Lithuania—see the link above for more details).

Also I didn’t get their linen jumpsuit, but I made a similar look with this top and Everlane’s linen pants (which I loooove, but I’ll do a full review of that later).

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{Wearing Everlane linen picnic top, Everlane linen pants, Everlane Day Crossover Sandal (c/o)}

What do you think? Are you into Everlane’s linen?

Storq Review: The Caftan

Just going to do a super short review today since I wanted to mention how the Storq Caftan fit on me and how I liked it. Sorry it’s not my usual more comprehensive review, but I don’t really have the time for many of those these days!

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image from Grechen’s blog here

image from Grechen’s blog here

So as much as I love my Storq nursing tank (reviewed here), Easy Pants (reviewed here, which I’m still wearing at least 3x a week at 9 weeks postpartum) and Storq pencil skirt, I have to be honest and say not all of their clothing works for me. I didn’t care for their T-shirt dress and their maternity tank top (reviewed here as part of the basics bundle). And well, I’ll have to add this caftan to the list of Storq no-go’s. I really wanted to like it because I loved how it looked on Grechen here. Also it’s such a great option to nurse in (there’s not a lot of maxi dresses made responsibly that you can easily breastfeed a baby in). But for some reason when I try it on, I look like I stepped out of a Mormon compound. Grechen and I are about the same height so how does it look so good on her? Maybe because she’s pregnant and I’m not? Maybe it’s the way she unbuttoned the top and tied the sash?

Anyway just for reference, I got my usual Storq size 3 (go off of their pre-pregnancy measurements not their pre-pregnancy sizes) and I think it fit well. The cotton is a super soft and comfy fabric, kind of like a lightweight flannel. I like the nursing option, the sleeves and the side-slits on the dress. But for some reason it just doesn’t feel right on me. After posting it on insta-story I got some tips to try rolling up the sleeves or going for a different shoe, so I might try those options when I get a chance and update this review. Or I might just sell it on eBay since I can’t return it (it was a sale item).

What do you think? What can I do to make it less dowdy?

P.S. Just to let you all know I’m current with all my reviews, which also means I don’t have any scheduled. So my posting might become more sporadic since I have to write whenever baby’s sleeping. But don’t worry if you don’t hear from me. I’m still going to blog when I can!

My Purse Collection Ranked

My Purse collection ranked

As you guys all know by now, I’ve been so fortunate to have had quite a few purses in my life. Lately I haven’t been buying and selling as many bags as I have had in the past (thank goodness) so my collection has been pretty steady. And since a reader asked me how I would rank the purses currently in my collection, I thought why not? So here are the rankings of all 20 bags that I currently own from least favorite to favorite.

20) Longchamp backpack: I purchased it on impulse last year and have yet to use it >.< . I’m not a backpack person but I thought it might be useful with a toddler or when traveling. I’m keeping it around just in case but if I don’t use it this year I’m selling it.

19) Everlane Form Bag (reviewed here): I never use it because it’s just too large for my needs. I much prefer the mini form bag (see #7) on this list. This bag is also on the chopping block.

18) Longchamp medium tote: I use this for times when I don’t want to carry the larger Longchamp tote, but tbh those occasions are kind of rare. We’ll see how long I keep this one.

17) Lululemon Crossbody/fanny pack (similar here, but mine is smaller and in black): I bought this bag a long time ago and it used to be my music festival bag. It can be worn both as a crossbody bag and a fanny pack, it’s waterproof, and it has a ton of pockets for organizing. I still sometimes use it for hiking or other times when I don’t want to have to worry about a bag. I’ll probably keep this indefinitely since I plan on it being the last fanny pack I’ll ever buy.

16) Longchamp Weekender: I used this as my hospital bag and plan to use this as my “personal item” the next time I catch a flight. Also just got this at the end of last year.

#15 and #13

#15 and #13

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15) Everlane Foldover Crossbody (reviewed here): I love using this crossbody when traveling since it’s pretty discreet yet can hold a ton of stuff if you need it to. It also can double as a clutch when going out.

14) PB 0110 Circle bag: I just reviewed this bag here and as much as I love this bag, there are so many more bags that I love before it so sadly it gets pushed down to number 14. And as much as I love the quality construction of the bag, the circular shape is just a trend, I know. We’ll see how long this ends up sticking around.

13) Balenciaga Work Bag: I used to have a lot of Balenciaga bags like this (it’s actually the bag that got me addicted to high end purses and started my former PurseForum addiction). I’ve sold them all a long time ago, but recently purchased this bag used on the Fashionphile (because of nostalgia and the fact that they go for such good prices now). I don’t think they’ll ever come back in style (they’re sooo 2000s) but I’ll always love them!

12) Hermes Bolide (reviewed here): I love this discreet Hermes bag and to me it’s the definition of understated luxury. But since it’s currently so low on my list here and it’s so expensive, I’ve decided to return it to Fashionphile using their buyback program. It just didn’t make sense for me to keep something that I didn’t love love love, especially since we’re trying to do FIRE.

#10 and #7

#10 and #7

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11) Acne Studios Musubi bag (reviewed here): I just got this bag at the beginning of the year (from TheRealReal), but this bag has made my top ten list. I love the sturdy leather, the great useable design, and its unusual shape. The more I use it the more I fall in love with it. Plus it fits a lot more than my usual “just essentials” daily bag.

10) Chanel small crossbody flap : I purchased this bag in London at the end of our Europe trip last year. This is probably the most useable Chanel I’ve purchased and I wear it often when going out. It holds just the essentials and can be dressed up or dressed down. And unlike the regular flap bags, which have a strap length that at the longest makes for a short awkward crossbody, the chain on this one is long and it’s a very comfortable crossbody length. Plus there’s a strip of leather that makes carrying it crossbody comfortable (instead of having the chain dig into my shoulder and leaving marks).

9) Longchamp large tote: This bag has been my travel workhorse over the last decade. I’m planning on replacing it with the weekender (see #16) since this tote is starting to wear out (the nylon corners are usually the first to go and mine are starting to have tiny holes in them). But I plan on still using it until pencils can fall out of the corners (like my friend’s longchamp tote).

8) Everlane Mini Form bag: This is my current obsession and also the newest addition to my collection. I just reviewed the bag here and I mean it when I said it was one of the best crossbody bags I’ve ever purchased.

7) Fendi By The Way bag: I recently reviewed the bag here even though I’ve had this bag for over 3 years and it’s the second oldest bag in my collection (the oldest being #9 above). Even though it was never a popular style, it works really well for my lifestyle (durable leather, easy to organize inside and multiple ways to carry it).

6) Everlane Day Market Tote (reviewed here): My most used item in my closet period. This is my work tote and all around “haul-anything” tote. You can see how it’s worn after 100 days of wear (and it’s taken a beating).

5) Chanel Medium Flap (featured in the post comparing vintage Chanel caviar leather to new Caviar leather): This was a gift from my mom on my 30th birthday so it’s the one bag I would never sell. And now I plan on passing it on to my kid eventually (hope she likes Chanel!). I only use this bag for special nights (mostly weddings).

4) Celine Small Cabas Phantom (reviewed here): This is my fancy tote that I treasure and baby. I use it when I want to look a bit more polished but still have to carry around a lot of stuff. I think a good dupe for it though is the Cuyana structured leather tote (I reviewed their original classic unstructured tote here).

3) Celine Nano Belt Bag : I’ve always loved the design and shape of the Celine Belt bag (and have purchased the Mini, Micro and now the Nano size—I’m like a crazy Celine Belt bag Goldilocks). I unfortunately sold my Mini bag before I started seriously blogging but I reviewed the Micro Belt bag here and did a comparison post between the Micro and Nano here. Now I have just the Nano and it’s the perfect size for my essentials without weighing me down!

2) Celine Soft Cube (reviewed here): This is the second most used bag in my collection after the Everlane Market Tote and it’s because the Soft Cube is a super functional bag. I like the crossbody strap (that’s a good length on me) along with the two top handles (which is how I carry it most of the time). The leather is durable and the inside is spacious enough for my essentials and then some. The only thing it’s missing are some legs to keep the leather bottom from touching the floor (not that I put it on the floor).

1) Hermes Lindy (reviewed here): This was my holy grail bag for over a decade, and I finally purchased it about a year and a half ago. And it was everything I had dreamt it would be. It’s my second Hermes bag (my first being a vintage Kelly that I had in my collection awhile ago), but I love it as if it was my first. This bag is a lot more functional for me than the Kelly was since the Lindy is a more casual bag. I love that I can carry it two different ways and even though it’s a high-end bag the leather is durable and not fragile at all. It’s the best of all worlds: functional, luxurious, and discreet.

Whew, that was some bag blog post! This is for all my bag-loving readers out there! I never really realized how many bags I had until I started to write this post, but 20 feels like too much. I think I’ll be selling some of those on the lower half of the list. How many should I cut my collection down to?

P.S. I found this old post with my old purse collection here. Not gonna lie, I definitely miss some of those purses!

Unsponsored Only Child Clothing Review: The Cove Pants {Updated December 2020}

Only Child Review Cove Pants
 

I’m just like any other blog reader out there who are influenced by those sponsored posts. So even though I was trying to be good and add only one item of clothing to my closet per month, I added this Only Child Cove pants to my closet in March (along with the many other things I purchased that month) because of Andrea’s posts of these pants here.

I wasn’t even searching for wide leg pants but something about the way she styled those pants made me think I was missing a key piece in my wardrobe. Plus I needed some new pants in my life because even at 8 weeks postpartum, this belly is not going away on its own (P.S. Contrary to popular belief, breastfeeding does not help you to lose weight—especially when eating like 5 lactation cookies a day lol. Also the fibroids are still in there and distorting my uterus). So instead of wearing the same pair of maternity overalls and storq easy pants over and over, I decided to let myself get a new pair of pants I could actually fit in. And boy, I have zero regrets!

Only Child Review Cove Pants
 

{Wearing: Everlane cotton linen v-neck (reviewed here), Only Child Cove Pants, Everlane Street Sandals (no longer sold, reviewed here), Everlane Mini Form Bag (reviewed here)}

First of all I got a medium to accomodate my new pooch and I have no problems getting them over my hips and belly (this is a major reason why I can’t wear most of my Elizabeth Suzann items from pre-pregnancy even though those bottoms are loose-looking). I find the elastic of these Only Child pants to be less stiff (ie more stretchy) than the thick elastic on Elizabeth Suzann bottoms (which don’t stretch out as much but might last longer). I appreciate the quality elastic on ES bottoms but sometimes it’s too tight, and even pre-pregnancy I had to shimmy the pants over my hips. No need for shimmying in these OC pants.

I also got the Cove pants in the short length since I’m 5’4” and they hit right at the top of my foot. But since these pants are so wide in the leg, I wanted them to hit closer to the ankles. So I hemmed them by an inch and that’s what you see in the pics here (or rather my mom hemmed them lol).

And now that I look at them, I see that they’re pretty similar to the Florence pants from Elizabeth Suzann since I’ve hemmed them. The only real difference that I can see between the two is that the ES Florence pants come up a little shorter and they’re a tad snugger in the hips than the original OC Cove pants. But the linen quality (which even in this light flax color is fully opaque) between the two brands are similar (as discussed in this linen discussion here) and the price points between the two are pretty similar as well (with the OC one being slightly cheaper). I think if you want wide leg pants that are a tad snugger with a tighter elastic around the waist go for the ES Florence pants, but if like me you’re looking for loose pants that fit basically like PJs, then go for the OC Cove pants.

P.S. Also take a look at Lia’s comment below about the difference in the rises between the ES Florence pants and the OC Cove pants.

{December 2020 Update: So I’m not sure when OC added pockets to their Cove pants but they now have pockets! That really makes these the best pants and I’ve been wearing them a lot this past years (because hello elastic waistband lol). I also just wrote a post comparing these Only Child Cove pants to the Linenfox Ocean pants if you’re interested in how they compare.}

Weekend Update/Ramblings

Though it’s only been about 2 months since Emi has entered our lives, so many things have changed. In many ways I already feel like I’m not the same person I was before her—both a better and worse person. I’m just different. One of my “better” attributes is now I really don’t care about high-end purses as much. For almost 15 years, there’s always been a purse I wanted or something that’s on my list to purchase. But now all of a sudden, poof, that list has disappeared. Sure it could be the lack of sleep taking over (I’m more concerned of when I can squeeze my next nap in and not what to buy). But I’m hoping this feeling will be more permanent than that. And with these feelings I returned the Hermes Bolide (<— that’s the link to the same purse I returned, it’s back on sale and reviewed here). Or rather I sold it back with Fashionphile’s buyback program), and I feel great about it. No regrets! Sure I could have kept it to pass it on to Emi, but 1) I already have enough bags to pass onto her and 2) I don’t think holding onto material items with the intention of passing it on is always a good idea (your kids might not value what you value and so it’ll be like passing on physical baggage along with the emotional one). Anyway these thoughts are bubbling up because not only did I recently return the Bolide, but I’m working on a post ranking my purse collection per a reader’s request. And tbh I just don’t feel the love for these purses as I used to and I can see myself selling even more of my bags in the near future.

And speaking of having less, reading this post about minimalism and FIRE has me totally inspired to live with less. And this article is inspiring me to renew my efforts on spending less. Also I used to think most people spent without thinking twice (probably because my peers also appear to spend this way) but have come to realize that that’s a privilege very few people can actually afford. And those who do spend like that and are in the middle class are either being foolish (like I was) and/or buying on credit (even more foolish). The reality is, we all have to think twice before we spend our money.

Storq Review: The Nursing Tank

via because you’re not going to see a pic with me wearing this tank and breastfeeding &gt;.&lt;

via because you’re not going to see a pic with me wearing this tank and breastfeeding >.<

*This was kindly gifted to me by Storq with no strings attached and in fact, no follow-up or pestering despite this review being several months after said gift. Seriously they’re so chill (which is a godsend for a newborn mom who’s also trying to blog).

Even before the baby was born I purchased nursing bras like these on Amazon, anticipating the need to breastfeed on the go or in somewhat public areas. It was a bit foolish in hindsight because now that I am breastfeeding, I rather just stay home to do it and schedule my errands around feeding time (luckily I have my mom here so I can do this, otherwise I definitely would not have this luxury). So I don’t really have a need for those nursing bras, nor did they fit. It took me years to finally get the right bra size and right bra (mostly thanks to ThirdLove and no thanks to Victoria’s Secret), and then pregnancy and breastfeeding up and changes my boob size. So of course ordering some bras blindly from Amazon didn’t work out. So I’m so thankful that the people at Storq reached out to me to see if I wanted to try something from their nursing line.

I know I said I would stop taking freebies from brands in exchange for reviews, but when Storq asks if you want anything it’s so hard to resist. Not only are their items ethically made in the US and China (much like Everlane), but their stuff is so practical and well-made! And since I returned the nursing bras on Amazon, I needed something on the rare occasion I was going to breastfeed in a public place. So I opted for their nursing tank.

Side note: I chose their tank over the bra because the C-section belt that the hospital sent me home with gave me a nasty rash and I really wanted a tank to cover that and my stretch marks. Also I figured a tank would be great to layer under button up shirts.

So what do I think about the tank?

Honestly, I love it. It’s made from the same modal and spandex combo material as my favorite Storq skirt (reviewed here) so it’s soft and stretchy. It provides enough support on top but it’s stretchy enough to accomodate my remaining belly. I love the clips at the top of the bra that make it easy for nursing. It’s an all around great basic tank.

And lately I’ve been using this nursing tank with my Willow breast pump (I decided to splurge on myself and give myself a little freedom when breast pumping. I’ll do a full review of it and compare it with the spectra and a medela later). And it’s been great: stretchy enough to accomodate the pumps but doesn’t stretch out and lose its shape.

Anyway if you’re looking for a great basic nursing tank or nursing bra substitute, I highly recommend checking out this one from Storq!

P.S. You can find all my other Storq reviews here.

P.P.S. Thanks to Allison for reminding me to mention Storq sizing. If you size according to their pre-pregnancy size, things will run a tad small. For example my pre-pregnancy size is between 4-6 and I’m usually a small, but I size everything from Storq in size 3 which is actually a pre-pregnancy size of 8-10. But I go based off of their pre-pregnancy measurements, which is accurate.

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PB 0110 Review: The AB38 Circle Bag

Am I speaking in some kind of code? Lol, nope PB 0110 is just the name of the bag and accessories line founded by a guy named Phillip Bree. I first found this European brand through some of the fancier boutiques in San Francisco and noticed the quality construction of the bags. The leather on the outside was beautiful and the sueded interiors felt luxurious. I also loved their minimal but unique style of bags with no overt branding. But with prices starting in the $500 range, I wasn’t willing to buy and try them.

Then I wanted the Mansur Gavriel crossbody circle bag, but wasn’t sure spending $795 on a trend item was really worth it. So when I found the PB0110 circle bag on the RealReal for less than $200 (with some TRR credit), I jumped at the deal. Not only would I fulfill my desire for a circle bag, but I would get to finally try out this lesser known European brand.

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PB0110 Review

First a quick note about their production practices. They don’t tout themselves as an ethical company per say but their values and production practices do qualify them as such (except if you don’t believe using leather can be ethical then they are not). Their main value is in making quality bags that are meant to be cherished and used for a long time. In fact, they have a blog called Beloved Objects that focuses on the founder’s and designers’ oldest and most cherished items. They want one of their bags to be your beloved object, and you can tell they make their bags to last. They source their vegetable tanned leather in Belgium in a factory that’s been tanning since 1873, their suede leather for the interior in Poland, their hardware in Italy, and their zippers in Germany. You can read all about their materials here. The bags are then made in multigenerational family factories in Poland (you can read about that here).

some outfit inspo with this bag

some outfit inspo with this bag

 

Now all of this sounds fine and fancy (and maybe justifies their high prices), but how does it translate to the actual bag? Having tried out their circle bag, I can say without a doubt that yes, these are quality bags. And it’s the details that make all the difference. Their zippers are some of the smoothest I’ve ever used on a bag, and it’s especially important on an awkward shape like the circle bag. No snags or stops when trying to zip this puppy up even when it’s full to the brim and with one hand. The suede interior is smooth and doesn’t flake off like in cheaper bags. And the outside vegetable tanned leather is stiff but still supple (and feels so much better than Mansur Gavriel’s super stiff vegetable tanned leather). Veg-tanned leather does scratch a bit more than chrome-tanned leather but the veg-tanned leather is meant to show a patina with time. Veg-tanned leather is also better for the environment (using tannins from natural sources like trees), and much harder to do, takes longer, and is usually done by hand. Veg-tanned leather is also hardier and more durable so it makes sense PB 0110 only uses the best veg-tanned leather for their bags (and it shows).

PB0110 Review
PB0110 Review

As for the actual bag itself, it’s called the AB38 bag because it was designed by their designer Ayzit Bostan (they name all their bags after the designer and a random seeming number). I love that this bag has a pretty unobtrusive top handle along with an adjustable crossbody strap. The inside has one small flat pocket that could maybe fit credit cards. Since there are no other dividers or pockets, things do get lost to the bottom pretty easily within the bag (like my keys). But I guess that sort of comes with the territory when using a trendy yet impractical shape like a circle bag. The zipper does come out pretty wide so it’s easy to fit things in, and it fits all my essentials (though the sunglasses case just barely). Overall I’m happy with my purchase and look forward to using this bag more this spring and summer!

I probably wouldn’t recommend buying PB0110 bags brand new since they’re an obscure brand with poor resale value (plus it’s better to buy leather items secondhand). Also since their items are meant to last it means that these bags are usually still in great shape when you find them pre-owned. The RealReal has a pretty good selection of them for sell here (and they even have this circle bag in black here) and the prices are even better when they go on sale!

Anyone else try a bag from PB 0110 and what did they think?

The Problem With Ethical Sneakers

What’s the problem with ethical sneakers? Other than how to style them without looking like an 80’s office worker ala Melanie Griffith in Working Girl?

The inspo for those Everlane sneakers

The inspo for those Everlane sneakers

Actually that’s a problem I have with all sneakers but that’s a post for another time.

No, the problem with ethical sneakers is that they’re usually made by ethical companies with comparatively little experience in the sneaker-making business and that they’re usually made with natural rubber.

Let’s tackle the natural rubber issue first. I get why ethical companies like using natural rubber: because it’s not virgin plastic. Rubber is an organic material made from the sap of rubber trees and thus is biodegradable in its purest form. It’s the original elastic polymer before plastics came along. But the problem with rubber when its used for the soles of shoes is that it’s heavy, stiff, and makes for a clunky uncomfortable sneaker. This is true with the Veja sneakers (reviewed here) as well as Everlane’s sneakers.

But take this with a grain of salt because I’m an ex-runner so I expect my sneakers to be cushiony and lightweight—truly something that I can work out in. If you’re okay with skater type of shoes, then you might not mind a heavy stiff shoe with no cushiony support.

Also as an ex-runner I believe in the research and development that sneaker companies put into their shoes. And that’s why I have issues with ethical companies with little or no experience making sneakers, especially if people start working out in them. If you’re going to be putting miles on your sneakers, either by running, walking, or even jumping around, you want to be sure that those shoes were made for that. So even though sneaker companies may be using virgin plastic like no tomorrow, at least your legs and feet stand a good chance of being protected from injury (and sorry if it came down to my legs or the environment, I’d choose my legs each time). I would not recommend working out in either Veja or Everlane sneakers since they’re not made for that. Oh and please don’t hike in them either (at least not a serious hike—get dedicated hiking shoes for that and your future ankles will thank you).

Of course, if you're just wearing sneakers for light walking and as a fashion statement then wearing ethical sneakers is totally fine. In which case maybe you can give me some pointers on how to style them without looking like I’ll be changing shoes at the office.

P.S. So my solution for adding sneakers to an ethical closet? Buy them secondhand from a store like Crossroads or Buffalo Exchange. The shoes you find in those kinds of stores are usually still in great condition and have lots of mileage left on them. Plus I always wear socks with my sneakers so it’s less gross to me to buy athletic shoes used (but smell the inside of the shoe first—sounds gross but it’s a must).

P.P.S I also read this article, which I found through Grechen, and it highlights the difference between an ethical fashion brand’s (Everlane’s) approach to sneakers and a sneaker brand’s (Adidas’) approach to a more ethical shoe. If I were to buy one, I would go with the big shoe brand with their large R&D budget. Now if only Adidas could use recycled plastic and then make a recyclable shoe. Maybe someday, though it feels like it’s a little too late for this technology already.

What I Wanted in April

I’ve discovered the secret of wanting and buying less: just have a newborn and get zero sleep so all that you want to do in your free time is sleep (and not browse shops online or swipe mindlessly through instagram). Unfortunately (or thankfully) it’s not a lasting solution to consumerism, but it did help me spend less money on my closet.

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The only thing I really thought about buying was a straw Janessa Leone hat. I used to have the Cuyana one (reviewed here) but it didn’t wear well and the straw started to fray. But in general I find that I like the idea of hats (it’ll keep the sun off my face and look chic!) but that I don’t really wear them that often. So it’s not really worth splurging on (though I occasionally look at the RealReal for one since I have some credit there).

I did however add the picnic linen top to my closet since I was asked by Everlane if I wanted anything to review (alas I couldn’t resist the temptation after so many months of no gifted items). I was also gifted the new wedge shoes but I found them too uncomfortable so I sent them back. And I was gifted the new sneakers (“Tread by Everlane”) but found them uncomfortable too (they run small so I really needed a size 9, not my usual Everlane size of 8. And in general they’re a heavy, clunky shoe—boo). Also I have to mention they don’t look that great to me (I called them nursing shoes though the online consensus seems to be orthopedic shoes). So I plan on returning these as well.

So with some luck (and thanks to my new daughter) I was able to keep to my April resolution of only one new addition to the closet!

P.S. Though I should mention I didn’t do a great job with not spending money overall (dang it the FIRE lifestyle is so hard). Along with the Willow pump I splurged on another Augustinus Bader Cream (reviewed here) after I ran out of it this month, but this time I got the regular instead of the Rich Cream (though I’m regretting not getting the Rich Cream because I think it works better for me than the regular—anyway I’ve updated the AB Cream review with all the deets).